Find Your Feminine Fire

What's in it for him when it comes to relationship work? In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Amanda is joined by her husband, Dr. Mark Testa, for an honest conversation about why many men feel hesitant, resistant, or uninterested in "working on the relationship",  and why it may be one of the most impactful choices they can make. Together, they explore: Why relationship work often feels like "her thing" How avoidance and distraction quietly erode intimacy What men actually gain from intentional connection Why your relationship affects emotional environment you live in every day How simple, practical practices can restore closeness and ease This episode reframes intimacy as leadership, self-respect, and creating a life that feels good to live inside. Whether your relationship feels solid, strained, or somewhere in between, this conversation offers a grounded, no nonsense perspective on connection, partnership, and being on the same team again.

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought: We're fine… but I don't feel in love the way I used to. In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Amanda Testa shares why so many loving, committed couples slowly drift apart, and what actually brings desire, closeness, and joy back online. This episode is for you if: You miss feeling butterflies, tingles, or desire You love your partner but feel bored, distant, or disconnected You've tried books, podcasts, or therapy — and still feel stuck You want a relationship that feels nourishing, alive, and fun again In this episode, Amanda explores: Why the real relationship problem isn't communication or sex — it's desire How couples drift apart without meaning to The "wait and see" trap that keeps intimacy temporary Why insight alone doesn't create lasting connection How nervous-system patterns silently drive conflict and shutdown The difference between rupture and repair (and why repair matters most) Why making connection fun is

Is menopause a breakdown or a breakthrough? In this paradigm-shifting conversation, Amanda sits down with Red School founders Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer to explore menopause as a sacred rite of passage, not a crisis. Drawing from their book, Wise Power, they offer a radical reframing of the menopausal journey—one rooted in purpose, sovereignty, and deep inner leadership. What you’ll discover in this episode: Why menopause is not an ending, but a powerful awakening The 5 phases of menopause—and how to navigate them How rest, repair, and surrender are essential to your transformation What “snudging” is—and why it’s your new best friend The surprising leadership potential that menopause unlocks Listen now and begin honoring this potent transition as the initiation it truly is.  

If you've ever felt like pleasure isn't accessible to you anymore—or maybe never truly was—this episode will change how you see everything. In this inspiring and unfiltered conversation, Amanda is joined by somatic wellness educator and retreat leader Pamela Madsen to explore the true power of erotic reawakening at every age. Pamela shares the realities of helping thousands of women reclaim desire and delight through her Back to the Body method, and what it really means to give yourself permission to receive. In this episode: Why erotic exploration is never too late—even in your 60s, 70s, or 80s What it looks like to rewire your body’s pleasure patterns through immersive retreats The surprising hunger women carry after decades of tending to others How Pamela uses her own erotic energy as a source of creativity, clarity, and leadership

Are you navigating perimenopause, menopause, or other midlife transitions and feeling disconnected from your sexuality?  In this illuminating episode, Amanda speaks with world-renowned sexologist Dr. Juliana Hauser about experiencing this chapter not as a decline, but as one of your most sexually sovereign yet. Dr. Hauser shares her personal journey through a hysterectomy, introduces the concept of "agency" as your North Star through change, and offers a refreshing perspective on holistic sexuality that goes far beyond just having sex.  You'll discover how to develop tolerance for ambiguity, communicate with loved ones about what you're experiencing, and redefine pleasure on your own terms.  Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by hormonal shifts, questioning your identity, or simply curious about reclaiming your sexual confidence, this conversation provides both practical wisdom and permission to embrace the full spectrum of your sensual self in midlife. You can find out more about Dr. Juliana here.

What happens when you climb the ladder of success, check all the boxes, and still feel completely disconnected from yourself? In this raw and hilarious conversation, Amanda sits down with Erin Keating—creator of the Hotter Than Ever podcast—to talk midlife reinvention, sexual reclamation, and what it really takes to stop abandoning yourself. Erin shares her unfiltered story of awakening after a sexless marriage, a COVID hospitalization, a layoff, and turning 50—all of which cracked her open to a wildly new and more authentic life. In this episode: The moment Erin realized something had to change How one potent question changed everything What happens when women stop abandoning themselves and reclaim their voice How Erin reconnected to her pleasure after a decade of disconnection Why reclaiming your weirdness might be the most powerful move of midlife   Listen now to hear how one woman went from overworked to unapologetically alive.  

What does it really feel like to navigate midlife when everything around—and inside—you is changing? In this honest, unfiltered solo episode, Amanda shares what’s been real in her world lately. From the physical and emotional shifts of perimenopause to the grief of disconnection and the power of reclaiming pleasure, this conversation is both confessional and comforting. Amanda explores what it means to ride the waves of change with as much grace, grit, and gentleness as possible. If you’ve been feeling the pull to do less, to reconnect, or to surrender into the unknown—this episode is a soft place to land.

Could your pelvic floor be the hidden key to better sex, less pain, and more energy? In this empowering episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by pelvic health expert and creator of the Cooch Ball, Jana Danielson, to explore how reconnecting with your pelvic bowl can help you reclaim your vitality, confidence, and turn-on. We talk about what’s really going on with pelvic floor dysfunction—and how healing this part of your body impacts everything from digestion to emotional regulation to intimacy. You’ll learn: Why “tight” isn’t the same as “strong” when it comes to your core The role of fascia, breath, and the vagus nerve in healing your pelvic floor How the Cooch Ball works (and how to know if it’s for you) Simple ways to reconnect to your body—and your power—daily Whether you're craving more sensation, working through perimenopause, or simply curious about your core, this conversation will give you hope and tools.

What if your body was not just your personal compass—but a radical force for collective healing and change?   In this powerful episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by the incredible Nadia Munla—master embodiment teacher, speaker, and creator of Embody by Nadia™. With nearly two decades of experience guiding women into deeper sensuality, sovereignty, and self-expression, Nadia is a true pioneer in the world of erotic embodiment and somatic facilitation.   Whether you're a coach, leader, facilitator, or simply someone longing to feel more alive in your body, this conversation will leave you both grounded and lit up.   Together we explore: What it really means to “drop someone deeper” in your space-holding Why erotic embodiment is not frivolous and why it’s imperative for leaders How embodiment isn’t just personal... it’s planetary The power of pleasure, rage, grief, and play as healing portals  How to facilitate safely without rescuing or performing Why reclaiming the full spectrum of emot

In this special Best Of episode, we're returning to one of the most foundational and powerful topics Amanda has ever covered—what it really means to find your Feminine Fire.

I'm beyond thrilled to welcome back to the pod, the brilliant Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of the groundbreaking books "Come As You Are" and her newest release "Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections." In this intimate and enlightening episode, Emily breaks down what it really takes to maintain a vibrant sexual connection in long-term relationships – and it might not be what you think! We dive deep into: • The 7 emotional "rooms" that influence our sexual experiences • Why pleasure matters more than desire • How to navigate body changes and transitions while maintaining intimacy • The surprising truth about what makes sex "magnificent" (hint: it's not what most people assume!) Emily also shares her own experiences, including how writing her books impacted her personal relationships and what she learned about rekindling intimate connections during challenging times. Her practical wisdom about navigating perimenopause, body image, and relationship transitions is both validatin

What if the key to a thriving relationship isn’t better communication—but better agreements? In this powerful episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by relationship guide and executive coach Krista Van Derveer to explore how creating soul-aligned, explicit agreements can bring more clarity, connection, and purpose into your partnership. Krista and her partner turned their 24 agreements into wedding vows—and in this conversation, she shares how intentional relating can be a catalyst for healing and evolution. ✨ What makes an agreement explicit (vs. implied—and often unmet) ✨ Why conflict doesn’t mean failure—it’s actually a repair opportunity ✨ What happens when your values don’t align—and how to navigate it ✨ How to design your relationship as a sacred container for growth Listen now and discover how clear agreements can unlock the intimacy you’re craving. Hosted by Amanda Testa, sex, love, and relationship coach for women ready to reclaim their feminine fire. Learn more about Krista and get her free

Ever find yourself in a cycle of nitpicking and low-grade arguments with your partner? You're not alone. In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, Amanda Testa shares why couples fall into the bickering trap—and how to break free. With real-life stories, expert insights, and somatic wisdom, you'll learn:  ✨ The nervous system's role in repetitive arguments ✨ How to interrupt the "fight loop" with one powerful tool ✨ Ways to reframe conflict into connection ✨ A script for approaching hard conversations with love ✨ How to rebuild emotional safety and intimacy—step by step

Feeling more like roommates than lovers? You're not alone—and you're not stuck. This week on the pod, Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m sharing 3 simple but powerful shifts to help you and your partner regain the spark, fun, and desire you’ve been missing. ✨ How to create a summer vision for your relationship ✨ Why protecting your time is a radical act of love ✨ Why you must reconnect outside the bedroom first This episode is your invitation to say yes to pleasure, connection, and a summer that lights you both up.

What if there’s nothing wrong with loving how you look—and everything wrong with a culture that shames you for it? In this fiery and empowering episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I sit down with feminist author, speaker, and expert witness Leora Tanenbaum to unpack the truth behind slut shaming, sexual self-expression, and how we can raise the next generation with more freedom and less fear. Leora’s new book, Sexy Selfie Nation, is a bold call to stop blaming women and girls for the culture that sexualizes and punishes them. It’s time to stand up for autonomy, joy, and unapologetic expression. ✨ What nonconsensual sexualization is—and how it affects girls and women ✨ How slut shaming has evolved (and gotten worse) in the digital age ✨ Why it’s misguided to blame girls for their selfies or outfits ✨ How to talk to your kids about bodily autonomy without shame ✨ The joy, power, and politics of self-expression online

What if the key to more joy, connection, and beauty in your life isn't doing more—but doing it differently? In this week’s episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I’m joined by award-winning author, poet, and spiritual teacher Judith Valente for a conversation that feels like a deep exhale. We explore what it means to live with intention, reverence, and presence in a culture that glorifies speed and productivity. Judith’s newest book, The Italian Soul, is a love letter to the Italian way of being—and a gentle invitation to slow down and savor your life. ✨ What Italians can teach us about beauty, rhythm, and slowing down ✨ How to resist the pressure of overachieving and reclaim rest ✨ The healing power of shared meals, sacred pauses, and daily rituals ✨ Why joy and reverence are not luxuries—but necessities ✨ Small shifts to bring more sacredness into your everyday life

What if betrayal didn’t have to be the end of your relationship? In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I sit down with therapist and bestselling author Dr. Monique Thompson to talk about what it really takes to rebuild emotional safety and connection after trust has been broken. Whether you’re recovering from infidelity, navigating emotional betrayal, or just feeling distant in your relationship, Dr. Monique’s insights are incredibly powerful. With over two decades of experience walking couples through the fire and into deeper love, she shares the truth about what healing requires—and what makes it possible. ✨ What authentic consent really looks like (and why it’s often missing) ✨ How to tell the difference between trauma and betrayal ✨ The key mindset shift that makes healing possible ✨ Why "bad sex" might be the bridge back to connection ✨ What to do if your partner doesn’t want to work on the relationship Dr. Monique shares wisdom, compassion, and real talk on what healing can look like—without sugar

How to Choose Yourself and Live Your Yes with Megan Walrod What if everything you've been searching for starts with choosing yourself? In this week’s Find Your Feminine Fire podcast episode, I’m joined by author and coach Megan Walrod for a conversation that’s both deeply inspiring and refreshingly real. Megan’s new book, It’s Always Been Me, is part beach read, part soul retrieval—and it’s sparking so many women to break free from self-abandonment and reclaim their joy, power, and turn-on. Listen in now to discover:  ✨ Why letting go of good girl conditioning is the key to freedom ✨ The surprising connection between creativity, sexuality, and personal power ✨ How Megan’s alter ego (and main character!) helped her reclaim her sensuality ✨ How we can reconnect with desire after major life transitions ✨ A fresh take on the inner critic—and how it’s actually a doorway to power If you’ve ever felt stuck between doing what’s expected and honoring what you really want, this conversation is for you. Megan’s debut n

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by all the advice about what you “should” be doing to keep your relationship hot and healthy as you age, you’re not alone. In this fiery and refreshingly real episode, Amanda Testa shares why you actually can “half-ass” your way into better intimacy—and why tiny, consistent shifts often create far more connection than trying to Type-A your way into a perfect sex life. Amanda dives into the unrealistic pressures midlife women face (hello, anti-aging ads everywhere!), why perfectionism is the death of turn-on, and how to start rebuilding emotional and erotic connection even when resentment, busyness, and awkwardness have taken over. Because when love is still there? You don’t need to blow up your relationship. You just need a new approach—one that’s imperfect, real, and doable right now. Tune in to this episode, and you’ll discover: Why you can’t "Type A" your way to better sex (and what actually works instead) How to make micro-shifts that heal resentment and reignite intima

What if your lack of desire has nothing to do with hormones… and everything to do with swallowed rage? In this week’s Find Your Feminine Fire podcast episode, I’m diving deep into a truth I see over and over again with my clients: it’s not that you’re broken—it’s that you’ve been holding everything inside. That unspoken “no” becomes disconnection. That silenced scream becomes numbness. And all of it ends up buried under your desire. In this episode, I share: ✨ How repressed anger shuts down your turn-on ✨ The surprising connection between rage and erotic energy ✨ Why people-pleasing kills your libido ✨ How to work with sacred rage (without spiraling) ✨ A somatic practice you can try today to gently unlock your fire If you’ve been feeling flat, disconnected, or like desire has gone missing—this episode is for you. You’re not broken. You’re full of brilliance, aliveness, and power—just waiting to be felt again.