Adoption Today

On this episode we are fortunate enough to chat with author and adoptive parent Simone Knego.  Her book The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You is a great read anytime, but it is also something that really resonates with a new year and new opportunities. She has a way of reminding us that life happens in the little, everyday moments, like saying hi to your neighbor or waiting a beat to answering a personal question. The stories that come from those encounters, and from her life with her husband and six children, will make you think about the way you approach your own daily routine. Her witty perspective allows us a fun look at everyday life. We think you will also enjoy our conversation with her as much as we did.

Ever wish you could find the perfect card to celebrate an adoption or recognize a birth parent? So did we!  And then we found Adoptionly Yours, a local Tampa Bay-based greeting card business run by two moms. Stacy Clark and Jane Alfieri both have daughters through the gift of adoption, and met while working in the advertising industry. The writer and artist put their heads and hearts together and came up with the perfect words and illustrations to recognize the adoption journey. Their line of greeting cards includes cards and gifts to support and celebrate new parents, honor birth parents and more.   Hear their inspiring story on the podcast, and then check them out at adoptionlyyours.

(Hey all- we did this podcast as socially distant as possible, which means we were on three separate phone lines. So there is a little lag on some of the audio which can make it sound out of sync. Hopefully it's not too bothersome, because there is some good info here! Sorry about that!) Jennifer Street, a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, is back on the podcast for another episode on taking a trauma-informed approach to mental health during this pandemic. We discuss what we hope will be some helpful reminders for parents and new resources as well. The trends across the country have shown indicators that people are becoming stressed and overwhelmed.  For this reason, as a caregiver, you have to take care of your needs first,  before you can be helpful to your children. Change your own expectations of your daily goals. See where your "pain points" are in your daily routine, and consider whether there is a different way to approach that time of day.   Give yourself permission to be "off" an

Children around the country are feeling the effects of the coronavirus quarantine. If your child is experiencing anxiety, grief, confusion over closings or frustration with their changing world, you’re not alone! Behavioral regression in children is a trauma response. Our guest is Jennifer Street who is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional who specializes in trauma work to find the best ways we as parents can help children navigate these troubling times. (This is part one of what will be at least a two-part series on mental health. We- Carrie and Karyn- are not doctors, or mental health experts! But we felt a need to start a conversation about this.) Here are some takeaways from our discussion: ~Structure creates safety for children, and children require that - especially now.  ~Parenting is now completely different, whether you're working while at home, going into work as an essential worker (or easing back into it as the orders are lifted) or a stay at home parent. Be easy on yourself. Don't measur

Amy Williams is the author of a beautiful children's book about adoption, called "Custom Made Kid." She and her husband have three daughters and live in Birmingham, Alabama. She shares her story with us about her very own custom made kid, who came to her family by way of adoption. If you've ever been frustrated by the waiting game of adoption or the cruelty of infertility, Amy's example is comforting and inspiring. You will appreciate her honesty when it comes to talking adoption, motherhood and God's divine timing in all things!

There are so many ways to have a family, and embryo adoption is a path to parenthood that may not even be on your radar! We didn't know much about it either, so we found someone who does answer all our questions: Is it IVF? Adoption? A combination? Our guest, Leigh, shares her story of growing her family this way after several failed fertility treatments. Why she and her husband chose to adopt an embryo- and what that even means- will have you considering the many advantages for all involved. For more information on embryo adoption and how it works, check out Nightlight and click on Snowflake Embryo Adoptions.

Sometimes you meet someone who inspires you and amazes you with their spirit and drive. Our guest Kelly Zarle is one of those people! She fired up to help foster children in the state of Florida, and determined to raise awareness of the need for more foster families.   Kelly and her husband Aaron have three children, and are currently foster parents to two babies: a one-and-a-half year old and a newborn. They began their foster care journey a few years ago not knowing where exactly it would lead them. As she says, she just kept saying "yes" and her attitude has made a tremendous impact on many lives.  Kelly is also currently the local Chapter Advocate of a group called Foster Florida, a group that organizes volunteers to help foster families by providing babysitting, meals and prayer. If you would like to find out how to volunteer your time to help one of the families in your community, click here.  After hearing this podcast interview with Kelly, we guarantee it will motivate you as well. &nbs

In our last episode with Barbara from February 2019, we ended with their family waiting on final approval to go to Korea and meet their little girl!  In this episode we talk all about the journey that unfolded since then and how it all went down! 

Our very first podcast guest and friend, Mary Anderle, is back with an incredible update to her story. You may remember that Mary and her husband have two biological children and were in the process of trying to adopt a third son through foster care. Their foster care journey began with creating a safe, loving space for a few children who turned out to be short-term placements. And then just before Hurricane Harvey hit, they welcomed a newborn, Baby B, into their home and into their hearts.  When we last spoke to Mary, they were in limbo about his future, wanting to adopt him and make him permanent family member, yet not knowing the outcome. This past year has tested their faith, made them stronger and brought them all closer together.  Find out the latest on their foster-to-adoption journey, and where Baby B is meant to be. 

Sometimes we wish our friends and family knew certain things about adoption... like, what not to say to people who are adopting! Well-meaning people often unknowingly use words in ways that aren't the most constructive. When it comes to questions, statements and assumptions, we have heard some interesting ones! We've got some real life examples, as well as some suggestions for how people can rephrase common questions and statements to make everyone feel better. And remember, when in doubt, laugh it off! At the very least it makes a good story.

Barbara Allen and her husband live in California with their two biological children, and their family is growing again as they are about to adopt a child from Korea!  When we spoke to her, they were in the last part of their wait to bring their daughter home. Barbara shares the reasons they selected Korea, how they were finally matched, and their next steps in the process.  Mentioned in this episode: AAC Adoption in Colorado (Barbara's agency) Holt Adoption (founded the Korean adoption process)

We are feeling the love!   We wanted to share the top five things we love about adoption. We think it rocks, and we want to shed some light on how we feel adoption helps you grow as a person, become a family, grow closer with God and even build an amazing community.  Mentioned in this episode is one of Karyn's favorite authors, Janet Landsbury, who wrote, among other books: No Bad Kids. For more info on her parenting approach, follow this link. (Not sponsored. Just love her). 

Meredith tells us her story of adopting their sweet son Luis from China. This episode is a candid and honest look at how the process works before, in country, and after, bringing their child home. For more info on adoption from China check out Holt International - http://www.holtinternational.org/china/

Jen King is a fellow mother, wife and friend who loves to entertain friends and family. She and her husband Kiley live in Tampa, Florida with their two young daughters. Jen was kind enough to share her adoption story with us: how she found out she was adopted and how she felt about that knowledge growing up. She also shared her feelings about taking a chance on a Facebook message and meeting her birthmother and biological family members once she was an adult.

There was another tragic death here in Tampa Bay involving an innocent child in the state's foster care system. Two year old Jordan Belliveau was senselessly murdered after being removed from his foster family. His biological mother is charged in his murder. Tragically, the foster care system in Florida is not doing enough to protect children like Jordan, and we are obligated to speak out and do something about it! On this episode we talk about some of the faults in the system, the laws governing the best interest of the child, and what we believe could be beneficial in order to end the cycle.

Are you a mom who works full-time outside the house, or a stay- at-home mom, or a combo of the two? Whatever your family situation, there are always benefits and struggles. We each bring our own unique perspective in discussing how we make it work!

Jed and Vicki have two beautiful children adopted from Nepal and Thailand. We are talking all about how their first adoption from Nepal didn't quite go as planned. It left Vicki in Nepal for 6 months not knowing if their adoption would ever got through and changed their lives forever!

The cost of adoption can be a big stumbling block for many people- but it doesn't have to be. We have some great info to help you over the financial hurdle of paying those adoption fees. From employer matching plans to the government tax credit, and fundraising or crowd-sourcing, it may be more manageable than you think! Carrie also shares her non-profit, the Promise Love Foundation, which helps fund adoption-related expenses for people right here in Tampa Bay. Here are some of the links to info we shared: Adoption Tax Credit Info: http://fundyouradoption.tv/adoption-tax-credit/ Foster/Adoption Process: www.promiselovefoundation.org/blog/2014/4/21/adoption-through-the-foster-care-system-how-does-it-work Private Adoption Process: www.promiselovefoundation.org/blog/2014/4/17/private-adoption-how-does-it-work Grant Info : https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/adoption/adoptive/expenses/grants-loans/ Promise Love Foundation - www.promiselovefoundation.or

We take a look at some popular children's books about adoption. Each has a slightly different message, so we checked out some geared towards international adoption, and others that are better for domestic infant adoptions. Here are the ones we reviewed: "Wonderful You" "When I Met You" "Motherbridge of Love" "The Family Book" "Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born" "Yes, I'm Adopted!" "A Mother for Choco" "How God Makes Babies" "I've Loved You Since Forever" And we also are looking forward to reading the Dungy's family's new booking coming out February 2019.

Many times in adoption, families have to travel to another state to meet their baby and bring him or her home. That usually means the adoptive parents will need to remain in the state where the baby was born for a few weeks after the birth. Karyn and Scott did just that when they lived in Nashville and traveled to Tampa to be present for the birth of their son. Listen to hear tips on staying sane while staying in a hotel with a newborn baby.