Abuse Talk Podcast

Jennifer is founder of #AbuseTalk and gives us an update as well as talking about why she decided to do a daily tweet over the festive period with #WhyIStayed. Jennifer Gilmour is an author and advocate for women in abusive relationships, using her own experiences of domestic abuse as a catalyst to bring awareness and to help others. Jennifer has published two publications, Isolation Junction and Clipped Wings which have both been Amazon Best Sellers and received awards. Jennifer speaks at events across the UK and continues to raise awareness through her blog posts, public speaking, radio interviews and social media. Jennifer has listened to her readers and has grown a digital community to support discussions around domestic abuse online. Starting with her Twitter Chat which opened late 2017 #AbuseTalk, this developed into an online forum in 2018. In 2019, Jennifer launched a podcast which include interviews with those in the sector and gives followers the opportunity to ask burning questions. Most Informati

Shikesh shares his journey through childhood abuse, financial abuse, reporting, mental health and his astonishing steps through recovery. Once I realised who was responsible, my daily life was consumed with thoughts of revenge.” Sexually abused at five, seven and twelve years of age, Shikesh was unaware that he would end up suffering so much more than he had already experienced. Growing up without living a normal childhood, teenage hood and even an early adulthood, he realised what mattered the most; to find happiness in his own unique way. Shikesh understood that his journey to recovery was going to be very painful and prepared himself for the fight of his life. In ALMOST, Shikesh tells his empowering story as he develops a deep self-awareness of why it is important to give our own meaning to a new beginning. - UPDATE from the Author - 29th July 2020 - After publishing my book, ALMOST, a lot of changes happened in my life both personally and professionally. For this reason, I realised that my journey wasn't

It's been asked over and over again, Alison Bird challenges this but also lists many reasons as to why she doesn't leave. References within the interview: Alice Ruggles clip- https://youtu.be/ML9MIqivZRE Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft The Femicide 10-year report on men’s fatal violence against women in the UK 2008 - 2018 @FemicideCensus Alison Bird was Services Director and Clinical Lead for Stalking at Changing Pathways and is now Training and Best Practice Lead at Changing Pathways. Changing Pathways is an Essex-based charity supporting victims of stalking and domestic abuse. Alison has worked nationally and locally with stalking/domestic abuse survivors for over a decade and was one of the first established & accredited Independent Stalking Advocacy Case Workers (ISACs) in the UK. She is a leading expert in the stalking field and specialises in supporting & advocating for high risk stalking victims/survivors. As well as the general public, this has included MPs and other high profile figures

Charlotte Budd talks to us about her experiences of domestic abuse, the family court system and her campaign work.  My name is Charlotte Budd I’m 33 years old. I am a mother and survivor of Domestic abuse and campaigner of #JusticeforFCchildren. Raising awareness of domestic abuse, family court and fighting for changes within the system.  All we ask for is for ourselves and our children to be safe and to be safe is a human right.  Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

John is a highly experienced detective, having served with the Devon and Cornwall Police for over 28 years and retiring as Detective Chief Inspector in 2016. He was responsible for the prevention and investigation of domestic abuse, sexual abuse, child and vulnerable adult abuse. For the final four years of his police career he was the Force Lead for Domestic Abuse, Stalking and Harassment, Forced Marriage, Honour Based Abuse, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and Safeguarding Vulnerable Adults/Adults at Risk. He was a member of the Local Safeguarding Children Board and Safeguarding Adults Board. He is also an experienced Hostage and Crisis Negotiator and Coordinator. John is an accredited and experienced Senior Investigating Officer and has worked and led on a number of serious and protracted investigations up to and including murder and in the later part of his police career, a number of high profile investigations in health-care settings. John is a Domestic Homicide Review (DHR) Chair and has sat on five dif

Fertility expert and abuse survivor, September Burton is a Champion for Women Survivors of Domestic Violence. After years of emotional, verbal, physical abuse and abuse of power - a common thread in the women she meets’ abuse stories – she has finally managed to break free. September started her career as a U.S. Navy personal chef to 4-star Admirals, stationed in Sicily, Italy. She has since shared her expertise and passion for nutrition as a recurring guest on KCMJ 93.9 radio show, ‘Happy News Now’ and developed a 6-week ‘Eating for Fertility’ nutrition plan for prospective parents. She is the Founder and CEO of “4-months-to-Fertile”, working with couples and mothers struggling with primary or secondary infertility and is the organizer of the first ever Colorado Fertility Conference. September is passionate about living a life of purpose, sharing her knowledge on the healing power of food, and freeing women from the debilitating shame and guilt that often accompanies domestic violence. "There is a magic that

I speak with Deborah Crozier from A Positive Start CIC about their online counselling service, Deborah answers questions sent in by viewers.  *Please note the free online counselling service offer has changed, please get in touch with Deborah directly about the current offers/fee's Deborah's Bio: I am the founding director and CEO at A Positive Start, a Social Enterprise based in the Borders, concerned with new solutions training, personal development & Person-Centred Counselling. I am passionate about helping people overcome the effects of trauma in their lives; supporting & empowering them to regain hope and possibility for the future so they can move forward and live the life they would choose for themselves. One thing I know for sure is, regardless of where you are coming from, or how hopeless things may seem; anything is possible with the right support and the right mindset - if only you can learn to believe in yourself and as a survivor of abuse, I know how incredibly difficult believing in

Destiny has requested to keep her name and her picture private, Destiny is using a pseudonym.  Destiny is a survivor of many forms of abuse including physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, financial, and many others when getting down to the bones of her experiences. Her journey of healing has led to her becoming a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach. As a survivor of abuse and a coach with a disability Destiny is passionate about the many aspects of disability, mental health, and abuse as well as the overlaps and interlinks. Her focus is spreading awareness of the many aspects which a disability makes something like abuse or healing from it different often difficult in some ways as well as the inaccessibility or non-existence of healing support available to those who are survivors with disabilities. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now

I speak with Emma Jenkings from Mosaic Mediations, we discuss mediation and Emma answers your questions.   Emma is a qualified workplace and employment mediator and runs her business Mosaic Mediation. After completing her Law degree in 2009, she went on to work at the Employment Tribunal as a Caseworker, Tribunal Clerk and Customer Service Officer.  Emma found that she had a knack for resolving complaints or issues when they arose. She also witnessed the stress, financial pressure and emotional strain that so many people go through during the tribunal process. Emma believed that if situations were tackled differently at an earlier stage, the matter could have been resolved effectively, without resorting to the tribunal.  At the beginning of 2016 Emma became a qualified workplace and employment mediator and started her business, Mosaic Mediation. Since then she has led and assisted in mediations for a wide variety of situations and work sectors, and has written a number of articles on conflict a

Danielle is an Amazon best selling author who began writing in order to share her childhood experiences of sexual abuse. Having come to terms with her abuse in her 40s she embarked on a journey of healing and acknowledgement. She sought to encourage readers that as per the title of her best selling book, 'It's no secret, thriving after surviving' that they too could live their best lives after abuse and trauma, should they choose. Danielle joins me for an open and honest conversation. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Danielle's website: www.danielledowney.co.uk  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/a

I spoke with Detective Constable Anoushka Dunic from the Met Police East Area Gangs Engagement Team.   We talk about exploitation and the common denominator within domestic abuse and gangs. Anoushka shares her career journey and talks about her experiences, she takes us through the signs of a young person being exploited. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

PART 2 In this episode we do something different, I chat with my husband about what it was like to be a relationship with a survivor. Rob met me just months after my relationship with my ex abuser had come to an end. Hear more about our story and how Rob got through it, shining a light on an area that I don't think has been covered before. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

I spoke with Karen Evans on what support is available for women living in barracks, Karen answered your questions as well.  Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk North East Hampshire Domestic Abuse Forum: www.nehantsdvf.co.uk Support available in link to the interview:   Armed Forces Based Confidential support services (recommended where possible as the staff are based in barracks / stations and understand the armed forces systems and what support / options there are as well as being independent of the chain of command)  Army Welfare Service (Intake and Assessment Team): 01904 882053 Monday – Thursday 0830 – 1630; Friday 0830 – 1600 (out of ho

In this episode we do something different, I chat with my husband about what it was like to be a relationship with a survivor. Rob met me just months after my relationship with my ex abuser had come to an end. Hear more about our story and how Rob got through it, shining a light on an area that I don't think has been covered before.  Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Now mixing with survivor stories.  Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk My website: www.jennifergilmour.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

I spoke with Sue Penna on recovering from trauma, Sue answers your questions.   Sue Penna, a UK pioneer in ‘trauma informed training’, draws on more than 20 years of experience working with the NHS’s Mental Health Services, and specialised experience in domestic and childhood abuse. The book acts as a recovery resource for individuals who have left violent relationships, helping them remove the guilt, shame and blame that can surround abuse. The Recovery Toolkit takes the reader on a journey that is part discovery, part guidance, and is based on the successful 12-week group programme of the same name, also created by Sue. It helps the reader to understand, challenge and remove the voice of the perpetrator. *** Mentioned in the podcast:  Covid19: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03dNVXQEUiU My thoughts on The Recovery Toolkit: https://youtu.be/vvXbOBtgnE4 *** Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what it

PART 2 I spoke with Zoe Parsons who is a narcissistic & domestic abuse recovery coach. There were plenty of questions to get through so we have had to split this interview into two parts. I think you will find this extremely informative and inspire you to learn more. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Zoe's website: www.selfloveafterabuse.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

I spoke with Zoe Parsons who is a narcissistic & domestic abuse recovery coach. There were plenty of questions to get through so we have had to split this interview into two parts. I think you will find this extremely informative and inspire you to learn more. PART 2: 21st May  Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Zoe's website: www.selfloveafterabuse.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

This is a Covid-19 special covering what we can do for victims of domestic abuse and also my thoughts on lockdown here in the UK. I speak with Sue Penna from Rock Pool, this episode is a little different to our usual episodes but I believe it is just as important.  Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Rock Pool's website: www.rockpool.life --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

I spoke with Claire Verney, Claire worked in the family court team for a domestic violence charity for many years and one of her main jobs was to review CAFCASS referrals to the perpetrator programme. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Claire's Website- https://www.dvact.org --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message

I am speak with Elizabeth from Abused Men in Scotland. Elizabeth is a helpline support officer, find out what her role entails. Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you. Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries. My website: www.jennifergilmour.com Abused Men in Scotland: http://abusedmeninscotland.org --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abusetalk/message