Real Relationships With Paula

Niche Radio — The festive season and holidays is a time to be happy, to have fun and a time for family. But this is not always the case, being in each other’s space, overindulging and overspending can bring frustration and conflict. This week I speak to Nuala, Pam, Patrick and Michelle about what the holiday’s means them, managing expectations and family time. As the year comes to a close, it’s an ideal time to reflect on the year, what’s worked, what can be improved upon and the intentions you want set for 2018. Wishing you all a wonderful festive season, happy holidays, may you have peace, joy and love around you and your loved ones and safe travels to those going away. Follow me: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Gas-lighting is an effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity and is generally carried out to give the perpetrator a sense of power and control over their victim. The term originally comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights which were powered by gas in their home and then denies it happened when his wife questions him. Even though the term has been around for a while, the term narcissism is more widely used. Chances are if you have been involved with a narcissist, you may well have been gas-lighted. The movie “The Girl on the Train” is a good example of this behaviour. If you’re looking for ways to develop yourself, have a healthy sense of self and your own boundaries, then you may want to consider signing up for my Mancave Mastermind or Womenology Masterclass programs. The program is a 6-month personal growth and development program ultimately em

Niche Radio — The global workplace landscape is changing substantially with more working flexibility to cater for lifestyle choices, family responsibilities and technology which is making it easier for us to do business anywhere and anytime all over the world. I speak to Phillipa Geard, founder of RecruitMyMom, a recruitment agencies specializing in flexi working assignments and paving the way for women to manage both their family responsibilities and careers. Twitter: @RecruitMyMom Click here to find out more information about the Womenology Masterclass, a 6-month personal growth and development program for men ultimately helping them to become a better person, partner and leader. The next group that kicks off on 16 Jan 2018 and has been a life changing program for the men that have attended to date. You can follow me here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube LinkedIn Recruit My Mom

Niche Radio — Tom Chapman is an inspirational barber who has set up his own men’s mental health awareness and suicide prevention movement, named The Lions Barber Collective. He is turning barbershops into safe spaces for men using the opportunity of a regular haircut to start conversations around mental health. Tom organises a professionally run training programme teaching barbers to recognize and listen to clients about the challenges they are facing – he has been awarded a 'Point of Light' Award by Prime Minister Theresa May in recognition of the impact his initiative is having. Click here to find out more information about the Mancave Mastermind program, a 6-month personal growth and development program for men ultimately helping them to become a better person, partner and leader. The next group that kicks off on 18 Jan 2018 and has been a life-changing program for the men that have attended to date.

Niche Radio — Samantha Evans co-founded Jo Divine an online sex toy platform with her husband 10 years ago. She has used her nursing background to write about sexual health issues in a practical way to talk about sexual health and pleasure educating people and healthcare professionals about sex products that can potentially damage your sexual health and impact your relationship as well as the benefits thereof. (Twitter - @SamTalksSex and @jodivine) Black Friday Special! Get 10% off when booking your seat on the upcoming Building Relationships Workshop on Sat 25 Nov 13:30-17:00 applicable to both singles and couples. Understand what it takes to make a relationship work, why previous relationships haven’t worked and how to build your relationship to last a lifetime. Coupon Code: BRJHB2711 this week only, valid til Fri 24 Nov 2017. You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — As newly-weds, it should be one of the most joyous times of your relationship as you get to know each other better on many levels, build the intimacy and build your relationship. But when crisis strikes in your sex life, it can have a large impact on both your intimacy and your relationship. Mignionette shares her journey on how having painful sex impacted her relationship, the diagnosis and how they have overcome this together and the surprise ending. Follow her journey on her blog Fair Lady You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Mireille Toulekima founder of Mireille Toulekima Global Leadership is a successful engineer, published author, mentor, wife, mother and so much more. I chat to her about her exciting, inspiring and motivating journey about making it in a man’s world in the gas and energy sector as well as her new book ‘Stepping Into your Greatness – 12 rules for building an Outstanding Life’. You can find out more about her on her website and on Facebook Follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Repeatedly raped, drugged and held captive in a human trafficking syndicate to be shipped off to Thailand, Thandeka is the founder of the #Enuf brand. At just 23yrs old, she has endured what some can only describe as something out of the movies – Taken with Liam Neeson comes to mind. Her scars are deep but she has is determined not to let this get her down and to provide a voice for other survivors of abuse. #survivorsvoice Follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Ian Fuhr founder of South Africa’s leading beauty salon group Sorbet is passionate about customer service and putting people before profit. He also believes that the purpose of work is to serve, not to make money, and that service should always come before reward. I chat to Ian about the importance of building relationships, his life lessons and the importance of having a mentor. Please follow me on social media here: FaceBook         Twitter               Youtube            Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — There are leaders and then there are leaders. Wila D’israeli Mung’omba is one such leader who was a very refined person, likeable human being and gentleman with a distinct presence. His daughter Chitupa Mung’omba recently published a book Africa Leadership Legacy in is honour and chats to us about her vision of the book being used as a key leadership resource manual around the world and to prompt current leaders as to the legacy they are looking to impart to future generations. You can find more info about her work and book on her website here. Please follow me on social media here: Twitter Facebook Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — Often our fears are the very things that hold us back through our limited thinking and beliefs. It’s the stories we tell ourselves about not being good enough, not being worthy of or deserving success, fearing our partner is going to leave us or cheat. Gosnia Gorna has just published her book My Expansion Game which is about turning the biggest fears into the success. It was born during one of her sessions where a client cried for over an hour because she was scared of dying of cancer - she was only 24 years old. You can find more info about her work and book on her website here. Please follow me on social media here: Twitter Facebook Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — When it comes to sex and intimacy, couples can get into a rut and sex can become boring. One of the areas that is frequently neglected is foreplay. Foreplay is key to a the success of a relationship and having a mutually satisfying sex life. This week we discuss how to have fabulous foreplay and some insights into how you can do this. You can follow me he Twitter Facebook Youtube Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — When we lose someone dear to us, it can feel like the rug has been ripped out from underneath us and our world has turned upside down. No one can even begin to describe the pain and void one feels when losing a loved one – it’s a journey that only you know. Everyone’s journey and healing process is different. This week I speak to Patrick who shares his story of losing his girlfriend in a car accident.

Niche Radio — According to the 2016 Global Sex Study conducted by Durex, the proportion of respondents saying they have the freedom to practise their sexual rights varies from country to country, with 75% of respondents from around the world agreeing they have the freedom to practise their sexual rights. The Global Advisory Board for Sexual Health and Wellbeing (GABSHW) focuses on advocating for greater attention to the relationship between sexual health, sexual rights, and sexual pleasure in all domains. Experts from around the world have joined forces to understand the links between sexual pleasure, sexual health and sexual right. This week I speak to Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng who is a member of the board and she shares the board’s vision and her views with me. If you want to take your relationship from good to great, book your seat on the Building Relationships workshop for singles and couples on 30 Sept May 2017.

Niche Radio — Being and entrepreneur is not for the feint hearted. It can be a very lonely journey and it can be very stressful at times. Maintaining a healthy work/life balance is key to our personal wellbeing as well as the overall success of the business. This week I speak to Phillip Knibbs of K2 Capital who shares his insights and journey of his business, how he manages stress, the importance of boundaries and dealing with uncertainty. Please follow me on social media here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn

Niche Radio — There are 6 key relationships we have throughout our lifetime: self, partner, family, friends, peers and spiritual. How we show up in our relationships and what we bring into our relationship space will determine the health and quality of our relationships. This week I share tips and insights on each of these areas as to how we can empower ourselves and improve these relationships to ultimately live happier and healthier lives. The happier and healthier our relationships, the more loved and fulfilled we feel in life as a whole.

Niche Radio — Relationships are complex at the best of times but when you take a single person, match them with a complete stranger, let them meet for the first time at the alter when they say “I do”, one can only imagine how this marriage will turn out. Arranged marriages are not an uncommon phenomenon, they happen primarily in the indian community and some black cultures but have been around for decades. Many of you may know I am on the panel of experts for Married at First Sight SA and this week I speak to Lihle from MAFSSA Season 1 about her journey on the show and the insights she’s gained as a result thereof. You can follow me here: Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn twitter.com

Niche Radio — More than 20% of children will have a mental health issue at some point in their lives—but parents often don’t recognize or admit their child needs help until an average of 8 years after the first symptoms – frequently when they have reached a state of crisis. Today I speak to Dr Kurt Newman, who is president and CEO of Children’s National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. and is widely recognized as one of the nation’s best pediatric hospitals. Dr Newman has been a surgeon at Children’s National for over thirty years and is a professor of surgery and paediatrics at George Washington University School of Medicine & Health Sciences. His recently published book Healing Children is the story of his own career and of the brave kids he has treated over the years—and their equally brave and tenacious parents. Anyone who has seen a child recover from a wound or a broken bone knows that kids are made to heal. Their bodies are more resilient, more adaptive, and far more able to withstand acute

Niche Radio — Our “Ego” is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is ‘not real’. If we take all the perceptions of what we are i.e. our beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities – then we have the structure of our ego. It is reactive based on our past experiences or frame of references and plays and immense role in creating the emotional drama in our lives. The ego hides behind the “I” and “me” in the thoughts and statements we have about our identity (e.g. I’m not clever enough, pretty enough, capable etc). Every time we compare ourselves to external references (i.e people, situations or things) we are reinforcing or ego and the beliefs we have about ourselves. And where did these thoughts originate from? Well, our childhood. When we were kids, perhaps when we were teased on the playground or reprimanded or praised by a teacher or parent and this is where we started forming this perception of our ‘self’. As adults, we need to stop and take a reality check against our “Ego” w

Niche Radio — Relationships are challenging at the best of times but add extra complexities to that such as being bisexual, and it can get a lot more complicated. There is no particular lifestyle attached to bisexuality - bisexual people come in all shapes and sizes, from all sorts of occupations, and with all levels of education. Your sexual orientation does not determine who you are or what you do, however many people suffer discrimination or violence because of misperceptions and prejudice from people who are straight, gay, or lesbian. Most of these perceptions come from the ‘unknown’ in other words majority of us are afraid to ask questions to satisfy our curiosity and when we do this, we gain more insight and a deeper understanding of the topic and person(s) involved. This week I chat to Patrick who is black, male and bisexual to help us understand more about the world he lives in. You can follow me here: FaceBook Twitter Youtube Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn