Stop Losing Women Podcast

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, It’s ASK HARRY time, where we answer listener’s dating questions! Today, we answer a question from a guy who made some “dating errors” on a previous date that have him wondering if he should cancel the next one he’s scheduled with her! Specifically, we go over: Whether or not you should ever cancel a date & why Why you need to avoid talking about your/her “issues” early in the dating process How your insecurities can ruin the relationship – even if she’s not feeling any What you need to do when setting up a date so that she won’t cancel …and much more!

In today's episode of the Stop Losing Women podcast, we discuss how a girl either likes your or doesn't, and why her having both feelings for you is impossible! Specifically, we talk about: The importance of understanding the word "BUT," and why it correlates with her lack of interest Examples of ways women verbalize a "dual reality" Examples of ways women actionize a "dual reality" The golden way of knowing which reality is the REAL one that she feels for you And much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, It’s ASK HARRY time, where we answer listener’s dating questions! Today, we answer a question from a listener who wants to know if you can ever get to a point in a relationship with a woman where you can be vulnerable without chasing her off! Specifically, we go over: Why you do NOT want to talk about vulnerabilities too much, ESPECIALLY in the beginning of the dating relationship How guys misinterpret what they’re supposed to be “open” about with their girlfriends/wives How & why she views you in a certain way when you talk about the things that worry you in the relationship The truth about how your platonic girl friends feel when you tell them about your problems Who it’s okay to go to when you need to talk about insecurities, worries, and/or issues in your relationship …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, It’s ASK HARRY time, where we answer listener’s dating questions! Today, we answer a 2nd message from a guy who has been dating a woman for 5 years and is engaged to her… but now isn’t so sure he wants to marry her! Specifically, we go over: The various reasons why it’s a BAD idea to marry someone for the WRONG reasons Why it’s not fair to the person you’re going to marry to stay with them if you’re really not interested in them The reason why men rush into relationships as they get older The importance of waiting for the RIGHT girl to come along – even if it means holding out a bit longer How to tell if you should marry the girl you’re with… or let her go …and much more!

It’s the Mother’s Day show!!! On today’s podcast, we’re talking about a topic that hasn’t been approached on this show before, and that’s how your love life is affected by the way you treated your mother growing up! As the first woman ever to appear in your life, the way in which you were taught to interact with her growing up helped to mold your viewpoint about women in general: how they deserve to be handled, talked to, etc. For those of you who find you are unable to hang on to women for a long time, or are constantly being told that you don’t treat women the right way, many of these issues could be the result of you having YEARS of practice treating the first women in your life (i.e. your Mom, Grandma, aunts, female cousins) in negative ways. If you got away with things as a kid like talking back to your Mom, throwing tantrums, or going even more extreme by hitting her or calling her ugly names, these actions, practiced over many years and ingrained into your behavior, could be things you’re bringing into

Why is it that some guys get into relationships and allow their women to either (a) dictate the rules of the house, or (b) throw sarcastic insults at them? I recently witnessed two of my guy friends deal with these issues. With the first one, I was told that, were I to come into town to visit him, I couldn’t stay at his place because his fiance didn’t approve of guest staying in their one bedroom place; with the second one, a girl my friend has been on/off seeing for 2 years said something to him that was meant to be a joke… yet it was actually disrespectful and rude, and he didn’t even stand up for himself! I saw these things happening, and I got mad. And I felt a little sad for them as well – here are 2 guys who are being taken to task by the women in their lives, and they’re just letting it happen. And it’s 2 things I don’t want to hear about happening to you guys – so, I did a podcast about the incidents and what you can do to avoid being “those” guys!

The “Hero” Moment: the moments in relationships where a woman asks for her man’s help, thus giving him a chance to be her man in shining armor. But what happens when these opportunities are presented and then mishandled? How do guys end up shooting themselves in the foot when attempting to “help” their girlfriend in the way they THINK they should vs. how they REALLY should? On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we attempt to go over these topics and others, including: Why women secretly desire to have their men rush in and “save the day,” even if they themselves could actually perform the action The positive feelings women feel when they’re men act like their heroes How man logic can ruin a perfectly good “hero” set up The correct and most effective ways to handle hero request Would your girl go to another man for help? The negative impact your “hero moment” mismanagement can have on your love life …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, It’s ASK HARRY time, where we answer listener’s dating questions! Today, we answer a message from a guy who has been dating a woman for 5 years and is engaged to her… but wants to stop talking about mundane things and have more intellectual conversations with her! Specifically, we go over: Why women are more willing to change themselves for you The key SECRET to opening a woman up to doing the tasks you want her to do Why just telling her to change or do something without guidance will cause her to rebel against you The importance of being open to discussing whatever new things SHE wants to talk about as well …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we talk about the importance of not starting fights with your woman over stuff not worth fighting about! Specifically, we go over: A recent example of a situation I encountered where a close guy friend of mine started a fight over dumb stuff The importance of analyzing what you’re about to get mad about… and seeing if it’s REALLY worth fighting about How to make certain things no big deal What can happen if you become too unpredictable about what you do and don’t get mad about Why the way you want to do things isn’t always the “right” way Why the way you want to do things isn’t always the wrong way… but still shouldn’t matter if she wants to do it differently …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we read an unread message from a guy who listened to the advice from this show, asked out a co-worker… and had a GREAT date! The listener was nice enough to send a message about how the date went, and his letter is being read to show you guys an example of what a date with a highly interested woman looks like! Specifically, we go over: The various verbal and physical cues she gave during the date that indicated strong interest How sexual tension can build without YOU having to be the one to introduce it The difference between how a man’s interest builds vs. a woman’s interest Why you ALWAYS go for the kiss on the first date – and how to pull it off! What you should focus on during the date to make her interest build Should you be worried about certain behaviors being “non-masculine”? …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we’re talking about how to get the girl you’re seeing (or are in a relationship with) to start paying for dates and other things! Specifically, we go over: The various reasons she’s not paying for your dates How to bring up that you’d like her to pay for stuff – and why it’s important to do it on the first date How to break a girl out of the mind set of a guy having to pay for EVERYTHING you both do Bringing up the topic of her paying for stuff in a way that’s not so serious (’cause she doesn’t know you’re really, REALLY mad about it) Things to mention so it will make it easy for her to choose activities and things to take YOU out on – and pay for! …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, It’s ASK HARRY time, where we answer listener’s dating questions! Today, we answer a message from a guy who insulted a girl he was “casually” dating, and wants to know how to win her back! Specifically, we go over: Why you’re never just “casually” dating a girl The importance of using loving words with a woman, even when you’re mad at her Why a woman has every right to NOT want to see you when you call her names How to get your point across with someone without having to use language that attacks the other person How to win a woman back after you’ve insulted her (hint: pestering her with an apology won’t do it)   …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we’re talking about how to keep your girl “friends” in your life when you have a girlfriend! Specifically, we go over: Why men typically don’t fight back when their women give them flack about having other girls in his life The reason you should NOT agree to get rid of your female friends The conversation(s) you need to have with your girlfriend to establish that your girl “friends” aren’t going anywhere What boundaries need to be established with your girl “friends” to make sure they don’t cross the line and risk losing you as a friend The keys to making your girlfriend feel like the #1 woman in your life – do these things and she won’t have as much of a problem with you hanging out with your platonic female friends …and much more!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we’re talking about the #1 way men get trained (by Hollywood) into screwing up their dating life! Specifically, we go over: My favorite TV show, and why it’s one of the MANY culprits that give guys a false impression of dating How TV and movies corrupt the dating ideals of men by age 13 The myth: why you don’t REALLY love that girl when you first see her, and what your feelings REALLY mean Why women don’t automatically like you once you reveal your feelings The difference between a woman’s “fantasy” ideal of dating vs. reality …and much more! Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Write to me at harry@stoplosingwomen.com!

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we discuss why you should never underestimate the kind of girls that will want to date you! Specifically, we go over: How your feelings about yourself determine the WHY behind your dating choices Why you should never feel intimidated about approaching any woman, whether she’s a 5 or a 10 How the subjective nature of what we each determine as “a fine woman” can be beneficial in your feelings about a hot girl The reason many “10s” don’t have boyfriends – and how YOU could end up being him Why it’s actually easier to date “10s” than you think – especially as they get older …and much more! Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Send us a message !

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we discuss how to recognize the “growing pains” phase of the relationship, and why it’s important to NOT get rid of her during these annoying times! Specifically, we go over: What the “Growing Pains” phase is Why a woman may upset you without knowing she’s doing so during this phase Learning how to not take certain actions personally Learning the difference between a woman hurting you unintentionally vs. a woman showing your major red flags Why getting rid of a woman who upsets you once or twice could be a HORRIBLE decision The advantages of sticking with  her after the “growing pains” phase Why even a girl that is right for you will still do things that annoy you – and why they become more tolerable over time …and much more! Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Send me a message !

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, It’s ASK HARRY time, where we answer listener’s dating questions! Today, we answer a message from a guy who wants to know (a) how to tell a girl he’s been dating for a month that he likes her, and (b) what he should do about Valentine’s! Specifically, we go over: How (and why) to let a girl know you like her without verbalizing it The reason men feel they have to tell a girl he likes her – and why it’s actually KILLING your chances with women What to do about Valentine’s day with a woman you’ve only been seeing for a short time How to use upcoming holidays to get her mad enough at you… to help her decide to date you?!?? …and much more! Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Send us a message !

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we talk about how to decrease your time on the phone with your girlfriend without hurting her feelings! Specifically, we go over: An article I typed up talking about why the phone should only be used to set up dates The quandary: what to do when the girl is your girlfriend and she calls you a lot How women become LESS attracted to you the more they talk to you on the phone and why (even if they don’t understand it themselves) What a girl is REALLY trying to do when she calls you The nice way to let her know you want to talk to her but have limited time (in a way that won’t  hurt her feelings) The move you need to do at the end of the call that will make feel excited about the near future with you …and much more! Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Send us a message !

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we talk about what you need to be doing during the dating phase to avoid getting divorced later! Specifically, we go over: The importance of seeing a woman as she is when she first presents herself to her Examples/stories of people who got divorced within a year – and what they all have in common Why men are willing to overlook a woman’s behavior How to tell if she has hidden behaviors that could come out to harm you later Not letting her feminine ways blind you from seeing her as she really is …and much more! Article mentioned in this podcast: Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Send us a message !

On today’s episode of the Stop Losing Women Podcast, we talk about how to emotionally deal with your woman telling you about her sexual past! Specifically, we go over: Why her past is so unimportant to your present relationship with her Why being judgmental of her sexual past is a No-No Hypocrisy: How not to be upset with her sexual past when you yourself have one The reason women tell you about her past – and no, it’s not to make you jealous How to have a talk with her about NOT divulging past sexual partners with each other …and much more! Got a dating question, comment about the show or a topic you’d like discussed? Send us a message !