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This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Mandi Sarro for an honest, empowering conversation about value, money, and the mindset shifts every woman needs to make when it comes to charging what she’s worth. From the concept of “b*tch tax”, charging more for difficult clients, to unlearning the need for external validation, this episode dives into the real reasons so many women underprice themselves. Mandi shares how being in the right rooms, surrounded by people who affirm your value, can completely shift how you see yourself and how you show up in business. This conversation explores:why you may be undercharging or over-deliveringhow validation-seeking shows up in your workthe difference between clients who understand value and those who don’thow to start recognizing yourself as an assetIf you’ve ever struggled to ask for more, negotiate your worth, or fully own your value, this episode is for you.Stay Connected with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instag

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the limiting beliefs that quietly shape how you see yourself, your work, your money, and your life. A lot of what we call self-doubt, fear, or “not feeling ready” isn’t random. It’s learned. Formed in childhood. Reinforced over time. And often… never questioned. In this episode, Adelle explores how early experiences shape core beliefs like:“I’m not good enough”“I have to prove my worth”“Success isn’t for me”And how these beliefs show up in adulthood:playing small at workstruggling with visibilityundercharging in businessconstantly seeking validationDrawing from psychology frameworks like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Schema Theory, and learned helplessness, this episode helps you understand why you keep repeating certain patterns and how to begin shifting them. If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, this episode will help you see why. And more importantly what you can start doing about it. Join Us: Becoming The Woman You Want To BeAdelle

In this powerful episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Patricia shares how her life completely paused and how she slowly, courageously rebuilt it. From learning how to walk again, to returning to school filled with fear and self-doubt, to rising through the ranks and rediscovering her brilliance. This is a story about resilience, identity, and what it really means to start over. And if you’ve ever felt like life delayed you, paused you, or set you back this episode will remind you:You are not behind.You are not done.You are still becoming.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL HEAR:What it feels like to be away from life for 2 yearsThe fear of starting again after a major life interruptionNavigating school, identity, and disabilityHow she rebuilt her confidence step by stepThe moment she realized she was still capable and more UPCOMING WELLNESS TALKWe’re hosting a powerful wellness experience: “Becoming The Woman You Want To Be” with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu. We’ll be unpacking:Childhood patterns and how they

She was told she was “useless.” In that moment, everything shifted. In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Terry Muikamba-Gitonga shares her journey from shrinking in toxic work environments to choosing herself and building something of her own. From navigating self-doubt and people-pleasing to doing the inner work and trusting her intuition, Terry opens up about what it really takes to walk away from spaces that diminish you and create a life that feels true. This is a conversation about:Self-worth and trusting yourselfRecognising toxic work environmentsThe courage it takes to leaveHealing and doing the inner workBuilding something aligned with who you areThis episode is your reminder: the validation you’re looking for… you already have it.Join our community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story:forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 

What if the patterns you struggle with today… started long before you even realized it? In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango sits down with accredited psychologist Faith Guchu for a powerful, eye-opening conversation ahead of the upcoming wellness talk: Becoming The Woman You Want To Be Together, they unpack how childhood wounds, including subtle emotional experiences like criticism, comparison, and lack of validation shape:Your self-worth and confidenceYour romantic relationships and attachment stylesYour career, work ethic, and burnout patternsYour tendency to people please or overperformAs Faith explains, many of the behaviors we struggle with today are rooted in unmet needs from childhood — including love, safety, validation, and acceptance. This episode will help you begin to connect the dots between your past and your present, so you can start choosing differently.In this episode, you’ll learn:What childhood wounds really are (beyond “big trauma”)How emotional neglect and critici

In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Blessing’s story. After leaving Kenya in search of a fresh start, Blessing shares her experience working in the Gulf as a domestic worker, navigating culture shock, isolation, and the emotional toll of being far from home. Despite her determination to rebuild her life, she found that the feelings she was trying to escape: instability, loneliness, and the search for belonging, followed her. In this episode, Blessing opens up about:The realities of working as a domestic worker in the GulfThe mental and emotional strain of isolation and culture shockDeveloping a difficult relationship with food and self-expressionThe breaking point that led her to leave and return to KenyaFeeling lost even after making bold decisionsLearning to sit with herself and begin building self-trustThe realization that “home” might be something you build withinThe power of female friendships and being held by communityThis is a deeply honest story about searching

In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle shares the three simple statements she says every morning that have transformed how she experiences her days. Inspired by a neurosurgeon’s insight into how the brain works, this episode explores how your thoughts influence what your brain pays attention to, and how you can gently rewire your mind to notice more joy, progress, and possibility. In this episode, we explore:How the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) shapes your daily experienceWhy your thoughts influence what you notice in your environmentThe power of self-compassion in building resilience and confidenceSimple, practical ways to shift your mindset without toxic positivityIf you’ve been feeling stuck in negative thought loops or want to experience your days differently, this episode offers a gentle, science-backed place to start.Join our community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTu

In this episode of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Blessing shares the first part of her deeply personal story. Born in Nairobi to very young parents, Blessing grew up moving between homes, from Nairobi to Nakuru, Thika, and relatives’ houses, searching for stability in a childhood filled with uncertainty.After losing her father at a young age and navigating an emotionally distant relationship with her mother, Blessing struggled with the feeling that she had no solid place to call home. That instability followed her into adulthood, shaping how she approached friendships, career choices, and her sense of identity. Despite performing well in school and receiving opportunities for further education, Blessing found herself unable to choose a path because stability itself felt unfamiliar. Feeling suffocated by uncertainty and desperate for a fresh start, she made a life-changing decision: to leave Kenya and work in the Gulf as a domestic worker.In Part 1, Blessing reflects on:Growing up between multiple homesLosing

Kindly take this short survey, your responses help shape future episodes of Difference She Makes and track how these stories are landing: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/diffshemakesIn the final episode of Difference She Makes, we sit down with South African human rights lawyer Sibongile Ndashe, founder of the Initiative for Strategic Litigation in Africa (ISLA), whose work sits at the intersection of feminist legal strategy, institutional reform, and continental accountability.From challenging the African Union Convention on Ending Violence Against Women and Girls, to confronting the rise of tech-facilitated gender-based violence across Africa, Sibongile takes us deep into what it really means to push law beyond intention and into impact.This conversation explores:Why the AU Convention on Ending Violence Against Women and Girls is “nonsensical” and legally flawedThe urgent gaps in addressing tech-facilitated GBV across the continentWhat feminist leadership looks like in practice, beyond buzzwordsHow to hold c

Kindly take this short survey, your responses help shape future episodes of Difference She Makes and track how these stories are landing: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/diffshemakesIn this episode of Difference She Makes, we sit down with Odunoluwa Longe, Founder of TLP Advisory and Co-Founder of DIY Law, to explore how women are shaping the legal frameworks powering Africa’s tech ecosystem.Odunoluwa was part of the collaborative process that led to the Nigeria Startup Act, a landmark law designed to support startups, align regulators, and create a governance framework for innovation.We explore:• Why regulation should never be ahead of innovation• What founders risk when they avoid policymakers• How women navigate male-dominated spaces like law and tech• Why mentorship matters in specialized legal fields• How to build a firm where women don’t have to choose between leadership and life“Regulation will be built around you if you don’t put yourself forward.”#NigeriaStartupAct #WomenInLaw #AfricanInnovation #Tech

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Waceke Nduati, founder of Centonomy, to unpack the real reasons many women struggle with money and how to reclaim financial agency without shame. This conversation goes far beyond budgeting.Together, they explore:How money trauma shapes women’s financial decisions- The limiting beliefs women are socialised to hold about wealth, ambition, and dependence- Why being “bad with money” is learned, not biological- Financial control, dignity, and the realities of financial abuse- Why women must separate their identity from their financial circumstances- How small, consistent steps can lead to long-term financial freedom- Why it’s never too late to change your relationship with money, at any ageWaceke shares deeply personal stories and insights from working with thousands of women, offering practical starting points for building financial confidence, whether you’re single, partnered, divorced, employed, self-employed, or starting over. Mon

Some days we forget. We forget how loved we are. We forget the moments that made us proud.We forget the days we laughed until our stomach hurt. And it’s not because those moments didn’t happen. Psychology shows that our brains have a negativity bias, meaning painful experiences stick longer than joyful ones. Over time, our minds can begin to tell us a story that life has mostly been difficult, even when joy has been present all along.In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle shares a practice she calls The Life Box. It’s exactly what it sounds like: a physical box filled with small objects that hold memories of love, joy, pride, and meaningful moments. Inside her life box are things like:• Letters from friends• A birthday card from her mum from when she turned 10• Receipts from favorite solo trips• Bicycle tour receipts from one of her favorite activities• A memory card filled with career highlights she’s proud of• And even memes that made her laugh during different seasons of life It’s a small box

In Episode 368 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 2 of Nkirote’s remarkable story.In Part 1, we heard about her unstable childhood in Meru, the loss of her grandmother who raised her, and the gradual deterioration of her eyesight due to glaucoma. Teachers stepped in when family could not, raising funds for surgery and eventually helping her join Saint Lucy’s School for the Blind.Part 2 continues her journey of resilience.After initially resisting Braille and struggling to accept her new reality, Nkirote slowly began rebuilding her confidence. With the help of friends and teachers, she learned Braille, reclaimed her academic excellence, and went on to excel throughout high school, eventually earning a B plain in KCSE.From there, her journey took an unexpected turn.Encouraged by people around her, she applied to study law, a decision that would shape the rest of her life.In this episode, Nkirote shares:Learning to embrace Braille and rediscovering her academic confidenceBecoming the top student thro

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle reflects on a powerful idea from the final episode of Difference She Makes with South African human rights lawyer Sibongile Ndashe. While Sibongile spends her career challenging institutions and pushing legal systems to protect women, one line from the conversation stayed with Adelle long after the interview ended: “We must be gentle with each other. But first let us be gentle with ourselves.” So many women are disciplined, ambitious, and unwavering in what they build and fight for. But when it comes to themselves, that same compassion often disappears. In this episode, Adelle explores:Why high-achieving women are often their own harshest criticsThe psychology of self-compassion and why it strengthens resilienceThe difference between accountability and shameHow gentleness toward yourself can coexist with unwavering standardsIf you’ve ever replayed a mistake over and over, questioned your worth after one setback, or pushed yourself harder than you would ever

In Episode 367 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 1 of Nkirote’s powerful story. Born fully sighted in Meru County, Nkirote’s childhood was marked by instability, moving from one household to another, losing her primary caregiver, and navigating neglect and emotional hardship at a young age. At just 12–13 years old, her eyesight began deteriorating. What started as subtle vision problems would later be diagnosed as glaucoma, by the time teachers intervened, one eye had already lost sight. In this deeply moving episode, Nkirote shares:Growing up without a stable homeBeing passed between relativesExperiencing childhood neglect and instabilityThe moment her eyesight began fadingHow teachers stepped in when family could notThe emotional impact of being taken to a school for the blindDenial, resilience, and the beginning of a new chapterThis episode is a reminder that sometimes the people who change your life are not blood, they are the ones who show up. Part 2 drops next Monday, where we explore her t

What if your job disappeared tomorrow? Who would you be? In this week’s Midweek Tease, we unpack a powerful idea inspired by my recent conversation with Odunoluwa Longe on Difference She Makes: Your purpose should be your life, not your job. For many high-achieving women, identity and productivity have become intertwined. We are praised for being exceptional, indispensable, reliable. But what happens when performance becomes the only place we feel worthy? In this reflective episode, we explore:The psychological concept of contingent self-worthWhy high-achieving women over-identify with careerThe difference between passion and alignmentHow to separate income from identityPractical, psychology-backed ways to begin discovering your purposeThis episode is an invitation to gently untangle who you are from what you do. Because your life is bigger than your title.Watch the full episode of Difference She Makes episode featuring Odunoluwa Longe:https://youtu.be/gBMRf16aPoIJoin our newsletter community:www.legallycluel

In Part 2 of Keziah Mumbi’s story, we move from suspicion… to diagnosis. After nine years of severe period pain, fainting, vomiting, job loss, and being dismissed by multiple doctors, Keziah finally meets a gynaecologist who believes her. The diagnosis? Stage 4 endometriosis. What doctors initially thought was “just a cyst” turned out to be far more serious. During laparoscopic surgery, surgeons discovered extensive endometrial tissue growth, multiple hidden cysts, severe scar tissue, and a condition known as a frozen pelvis, where organs fuse together due to untreated endometriosis. This episode explores:What endometriosis actually isWhy diagnosis can take 7–9 years on averageWhy laparoscopy is often required for confirmationWhat Stage 4 endometriosis meansFrozen pelvis explainedHormonal treatment options (progesterone vs combined pill)How delayed diagnosis impacts fertilityAccess to medication challenges in KenyaThe role of NHIF in covering life-saving surgeryThe emotional toll of chronic illness in relatio

What happens when a woman steps into a leadership position that has only ever been held by men? And what happens when she decides to run… just two weeks before elections? In this episode of Difference She Makes, we sit down with Natasha Ali Erry, Advocate of the High Court of Kenya and Chairperson of the Mombasa Law Society, to unpack mentorship, audacity, leadership, and the quiet pressure women face to shrink once they enter power. Natasha shares:Why she decided to run for chairperson 14 days before electionsThe role mentorship and allies played in her winThe difference between mentorship, sponsorship, allies, and role modelsWhat it means to institutionalize mentorship for young women lawyersThe pressure to lead “like the previous chairs”, who were all menWhy women must resist shedding themselves to succeedAnd the powerful reminder: “Don’t shrink yourself. The room has to adjust to fit you.”Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/lega

What if you’re not unrealistic…What if you’re remembering what’s possible?In this week’s Mid Week Tease, I unpack something that stopped me in my tracks during my conversation with Natasha Ali on Difference She Makes. She said, almost laughing, “I think I’m a little delusional.” But what if that “delusion” is actually optimism bias?What if it’s self-efficacy?What if it’s the power of possible selves?In this episode, we explore:Why representation recalibrates what feels possibleThe psychology behind optimism bias (and why it helps women take bold risks)How to use the concept of “possible selves” to move toward your futureThe difference between impostor syndrome and audacious beliefWhy community is essential when your confidence is still formingThis is a reflective, psychology-backed conversation for any woman who has ever been told she’s too ambitious, too unrealistic, or dreaming too big. Maybe you’re not delusional.Maybe your belief is data.Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Newsletter: www.legallycl

For years, Keziah Mumbi was told her pain was “normal.” At 12 years old, she began experiencing extremely heavy periods, severe cramps, vomiting, fainting, and anemia. She was going through an entire pack of pads a day. She stained her school uniform. She was sedated from pain. She missed classes. She lost jobs. And still doctors told her:“You’re too young to have endometriosis.”“It’s just hormones.”“Every woman gets cramps.”“It will stop after you have a baby.”In Part 1 of this powerful story on the Legally Clueless Podcast, Keziah shares what it was like to grow up with undiagnosed endometriosis, navigating period shame, medical gaslighting, workplace discrimination, and years of debilitating pain without answers. This episode explores:Severe period pain and when it’s NOT normalSigns and symptoms of endometriosisHeavy menstrual bleeding & anemiaBeing dismissed by doctorsHow chronic illness affects school, work, and relationshipsThe emotional toll of living in constant painListen & Subscribe: We’re a