Dear Men

Ever had a hard time communicating about what you like (or don't like) in bed? Maybe you didn't want to hurt your partner's feelings or didn't know how to say it. Men, women, sex, love, dating, romance, and partnership are complicated -- here's the best of my sex research so far to help.

Casual sex, friends with benefits, and hookup culture between men and women: what does it feel like when it goes well, and what happens when it doesn't? Prepare for some entertaining and sometimes cringe-worthy stories of sexual escapades and the surprising love that can come along the way.

Maintaining the sexual passion in a long-term relationship is one of the more important and most challenging parts of the equation. We break down the barriers to hot sex for men and women and how to remove them, so the sparks keep flying.

The Big Sexy Data Set delivers, with 9 women sharing personal stories of times men were allies to them, whether in a professional, dating, sexual, or safety context. This one is an acknowledgement of the masculine. <3

In light of everything going on between men and women, right now, I wanted to share personal stories of times men have been allies to me. Whether in dating, friendship, sex, relationships, or professional contexts, I've loved how these men showed up.

What's the best to support a woman who tells you about sexual abuse/assault? Here, two women share their personal stories of men who've done it poorly, and those who've done it exceedingly well. Not to be missed.

What is it really like to go to couples counseling? A real couple shares their personal journey of navigating sex and partnership, and how a couples therapist has been an invaluable addition to their relationship. Both men and women will get a lot out of this one.

Flirting is an art ... and one we adore! Here we discuss the men who've flirted well, and what they did. Whether in dating, sex, or a relationship, flirting is one of the best parts of life and should be celebrated!

Monogamy is the default in most relationships, but is it what's really best for couples, or men & women individually? This week's guest says polyamory (aka non-monogamy) feels the most freeing for her, and she experiences even more fulfilling sex and love as a result. 

The pickup artist scene (PUA) is the entry point for a lot of men looking for how to get better with women in sex, dating, and relationships. Here, we explore the positive and darker sides of the pickup scene.

Masculine presence is like catnip to women. Whether on a date, in a relationship, or during sex, the more present a man is, the hotter it is. Here, we discuss how a man can quickly but permanently get more present -- a state that's not only more relaxing for him, but is super sexy to her.

Sometimes it feels like men and women speak different languages. Masculine and feminine communication is distinct, but it doesn't have to break us (up). Strong, healthy relationships - including the sex part - rely on good communication. 

What's it like to be a man on Bumble, versus a woman? How do you respond as a guy when your date starts telling you about her possible Tinder threesome sex? All that plus the question of what we're all doing on the apps in the first place. Is it really about hookups, love, and relationships, or something else entirely?

Tinder, Bumble, and J-Date, oh my! We get down and dirty on our thoughts & experiences with sex, hookups, men, women, relationships, and the rest when it comes to the dating apps. Whether it's MeetMindful, Hinge, or Match, we leave no online dating stone unturned.

Betcha didn't know there were 3, did ya? ;) Both men and women typically only know about clitoral orgasms, but there are several more pleasure-filled adventures to go on. We delve mostly into a third (and more unknown) one in this especially sexy episode. 

It's a phrase we throw around a lot, but what does it actually mean? The fear of commitment is intimately related to a fear of something else that's both unexpected and critical to address when it comes to having healthy sex, dating, and relationships.

What do you say when a woman tells you she has been assaulted? What's the right way to respond when she's going through something difficult? In this special GirlTalk episode, we women share how we want men to respond, and what brings us closer to them.

A pattern Jason and I see over and over in our work with men is exposed here, and it's critical to having and maintaining healthy relationships. Whether it's for dating, sex, or relationships, the kinds of women you attract aren't random; it's important to know how to get the women who are good for you, and avoid the ones that are bad for you.

Kink and BDSM in dating & relationships is both fascinating and misunderstood. Somatica therapist and sex expert Harmony shares her insight as a former professional dominatrix, including what we should all know when it comes to sex, power, and personal growth.

There's a cool hack we come to in this episode about how to become more masculine. The fact is, traditional views of masculinity are outdated in sex, dating, and relationships. We need a new model for what a sexy AND mature man looks like in the world. Men's coach Jeffrey Platts shares an easy way to do this in a powerful and exciting way.