The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast

Ever looked at your friends and wondered, “How did we even become friends?” I didn’t—until I stopped drinking. And when I did, everything changed.   This International Friendship Day, we’re unpacking the messy truth about relationships built under the influence. Not just alcohol, but cultural pressure, emotional hunger, and the desperate human need to belong—even if it means betraying ourselves.   I’ll share how quitting alcohol triggered a friendship reckoning, what PARTS of us cling to relationships out of fear, and why some connections aren’t meant to follow us into our alcohol-free life.   Let’s get honest about the friendships that no longer serve us—and how we open the door to ones that do.   Because you’re not losing friends. You’re losing masks. And what you’ll find underneath… is real connection.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #AlcoholFreeLife #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #FriendshipDay #SelfLedLiving #AlcoholAwareness #EmotionalSobriety #RealFriendsOnly #SelfConnection #

What if I told you ayahuasca might be just another form of alcohol? Not chemically. But energetically. Intentionally.   In this episode, I reflect on a series of videos from my mentor Preston Smiles about the beauty—and the danger—of plant medicine. I don’t speak as an expert on psychedelics. But I do speak as someone who’s helped thousands break free from alcohol’s grip.   And what I see today is that too many people are replacing one Liquid Lie with another.   Because it’s not about the substance. It’s about the state you’re in when you choose it.   So ask yourself: Are you reaching for something from SELF? Or are you still hoping to be rescued?     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #PlantMedicine #Ayahuasca #Psychedelics #Sobriety #AlcoholFree #ConsciousLiving #SELFleadership #IFS #AlcoholRecovery #SpiritualBypass #TraumaHealing #LiquidLie #SoberCurious #SobrietyPodcast #RecoveryJourney

You’re trying to be kind. But you keep snapping. You want to connect. But you keep pushing people away.   It’s not because you’re a bad person. It’s because your nervous system is fried—and if you don’t heal it, love can’t land. Not in your marriage. Not with your kids. Not even with yourself.   In this episode, I share a powerful quote from Spiritual Millionaire by Preston Smiles—and unpack what it means to lead with love, even when everything in your body is screaming to protect.   You’ll learn how to identify the PARTS of you that panic, how to regulate your system in real time, and why the deepest intimacy begins not with another—but with SELF.   Whether you’re struggling in your marriage, your friendships, or your relationship with alcohol, this episode could shift everything.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #NervousSystem #RelationshipHealing #IFS #TraumaRecovery #SelfRegulation #EmotionalSobriety #SpiritualMillionaire #PrestonSmiles #SelfLeadership #HealingTrauma #SelfEnerg

Imagine this: your father dies from alcohol. You nearly lose yourself to it too. And then—without a blink—you build your fortune selling it. That’s what California Governor Gavin Newsom did. And Stephen Bartlett? He let it slide without a single challenge.   This is the Deaf Effect. It’s how the Liquid Lie survives—through silence, contradiction, and collective denial.   In this episode, I break down how this psychological phenomenon stops millions from ever facing the truth about alcohol… even when it’s screaming in their face.   We’re not here to judge Bartlett or Newsom. We’re here to turn the mirror inward.   Because the Deaf Effect isn’t just “out there.” It’s in us.   Let’s talk about the gap between what we know—and how we live.   STRIVER, if you want to live a SELF-led life, AFAF—this one’s essential listening.   Listen in. Reflect. And if it lands, leave a comment saying: “Today, I will not drink.”   Much love, and STRIVE on. Lee   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #sobriety

You think you’re in control when you pour that glass—but what if you’re not?   In today’s episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we dive deep into The Power of Choice, one of the most transformative workshops inside the STUCK Phase of the STRIVE Method. You’ll learn how most people aren’t actually choosing to drink—they’re obeying PARTS of themselves rooted in fear, shame, and habit.   Lee shares a personal story of quitting caffeine without struggle—and reveals how that ease came from SELF, not from a desperate PART trying to prove something. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “choosing” to drink, this episode will challenge that belief at its core.   By the end, you’ll have a new lens for every decision you make—and the tools to reclaim your sovereignty.  

You don’t need to hit rock bottom to be stuck.   In fact, some of the hardest people to help—the ones who stall the longest, question themselves the most, and carry their suffering in silence—are the ones who are “pretty good” at life.   In this Coach’s Corner episode, Lee shares real stories from STRIVERS who’ve mastered survival but haven’t yet chosen transformation. They’re not in hell, but they’re not in heaven either. They’re stuck in the purgatory of “not that bad.”   You’ll meet James, a successful man who’s done everything right—except decide what he really wants. And Lee reflects on his own journey through comfort, status, and poker fame… and the hidden cost of never making a true choice.   If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m doing okay… I don’t need to change,” this episode is your wake-up call.  

For 20 years, I thought I’d die a railway man. Not because I loved the job—but because I was too numb to dream of anything else.   In today’s episode, I take you back to the days when alcohol convinced me to play it safe. To stay small. To stick to the script society handed me.   But once I became alcohol-free as fuck, the path I thought was permanent? It cracked wide open.   Poker player. Podcast host. Filmmaker. Coach.   All of those versions of me were buried under the identity of “railway man.” And they only came to life when I stopped drinking.   If you’ve ever felt stuck in a story that isn’t yours… this one’s for you.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholfreeliving #selfledlife #quittingdrinking #railwayman #identityshift #alcoholrecovery #sobrietyjourney #alcoholfree #personaltransformation #liquidlie #lifebeyondbooze

We’ve been told that booze brings us closer. That bonding with mates means beers, bars, and banter. But what if that was never true?   In this powerful episode, Lee peels back the layers of masculine connection and reveals how alcohol is a mask—not a bridge. From footy matches to pub pool nights, he shares his own journey of discovering that real friendship begins when the pints disappear and the truth is allowed in.   If you’ve ever wondered why your relationships feel hollow without a drink in your hand, this one’s for you.   Let’s unlearn the Liquid Lie—and start building real brotherhood.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #masculinity #mensmentalhealth #emotionalconnection #brotherhood #soberlife #alcoholfree #quitdrinking #sobercommunity #selfledliving #emotionalresilience #vulnerability #menssupport #deepconnection

If a pint of Guinness causes cancer, wouldn’t you want to know? Ireland passed a law in 2018 requiring all alcohol bottles to carry health warnings by 2026—truths like “Alcohol causes cancer.” But under pressure from U.S. trade threats, they’ve decided to delay until 2029. Why? To protect whiskey exports.   This episode isn’t about policy—it’s about how deep the Liquid Lie runs. When governments choose silence over science, it’s not just disappointing. It’s deadly.   Let’s unpack why alcohol still gets a free pass—and what choosing a SELF-led life really means in a world built to keep you drinking.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #AlcoholAwareness #AlcoholKills #IrishWhiskey #BigAlcohol #HealthWarning #AlcoholFreeLife #LiquidLie #CancerPrevention #AlcoholTruth #SoberCurious

If I handed you a magic button that could erase alcohol from your life forever… would you press it?   Most people say yes—until they realise what they’re losing.   In today’s Book Highlight episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I explore a quote from Spiritual Millionaire by Preston Smiles that challenges our assumptions about alcohol and safety. This one’s all about the payoff—the hidden reason you haven’t let go, even though alcohol is wrecking your life.   Because quitting isn’t about willpower. It’s about honesty.   You’ll learn how to uncover the real reason you’re stuck, how to use the “Magic Button” technique from CBT, and why your PARTS would rather protect you than free you. This one will hit a nerve—and that’s exactly the point.   Let’s get radically honest together.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #QuitDrinking #TheLiquidLie #SelfLedLife #AlcoholAwareness #EmotionalSobriety #RadicalHonesty #SoberCurious #MentalHealth #RecoveryIsPossible #SpiritualSobriety #StopDrink

You’re lying beside someone you love—but it feels like you’re on different planets.   For STRIVERS, touch isn’t just about sex. It’s about being seen. And sometimes, the deeper hunger is for intimacy, presence, and validation—not another glass of wine to soften the rejection.   In today’s episode, I share a raw personal story about how alcohol, pestering, and resentment nearly cost me real connection—and how choosing SELF over pressure transformed my marriage.   Whether you’re single and craving touch, or in a relationship where sex feels transactional, this episode offers a radical reframe: intimacy starts within.   And alcohol? It was never the answer.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholrecovery #emotionalintimacy #alcoholfree #soberrelationships #IFS #selfledliving #soberlove #intimacywithoutalcohol #recoveryjourney #masculinefemininebalance #touchstarvation #codependencyhealing #alcoholfreedom

Is the chaos of the world hijacking your nervous system?   In this powerful episode, Lee Davy breaks down the invisible weight of fear, doom-scrolling, and global anxiety—and how it keeps us drinking. He shares how a single quote cracked open a deeper truth: “You can be aware, but not interested.”   Through the lens of Internal Family Systems and the STRIVE Method, you’ll learn how fear can knock you out of your SELF—and how to find your way back to presence, power, and peace.   If you’ve ever poured a drink to drown out the headlines… this one’s for you.   Listen in and reclaim your window of tolerance.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #AlcoholAwareness #SoberCurious #MentalHealthMatters #Doomscrolling #IFS #Neuroception #EmotionalSobriety #WindowOfTolerance #PresentParenting #SelfLedLife #NervousSystemHealing #FearIsAFrequency #CardiffInTheSun

You’re the “nice one.” The “helpful one.” The one who never rocks the boat. But here’s the truth: every time you say yes out of fear, you abandon yourself.   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I explore the invisible cost of people-pleasing—especially when alcohol is involved. From parenting moments with my daughter Zia to money conversations with my wife Liza, I reveal how my fear of conflict used to rule my life—and how I reclaimed my voice by learning to say no with love.   This isn’t about being selfish. It’s about restoring your integrity. It’s about dropping the fear-driven yes… and choosing a boundary from SELF.   You’ll learn the difference between conscious kindness and covert self-betrayal, and why honouring your truth—especially in social settings—is one of the most courageous things you can do.   If you’ve ever poured a drink you didn’t want, stayed at a party you didn’t enjoy, or said yes just to avoid being judged… this one’s for you.   Much love—and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSobe

When Thad Wong moved in with his future wife, his secret relationship with alcohol was exposed—and everything changed.   In this deeply reflective conversation, Thad shares how he went from numbing the pain of “not being enough” with alcohol and marijuana to building a life of spiritual connection and embodied strength through internal martial arts and the 12 steps.   We dive into the heart of wu wei, the Chinese concept of effortless action, and how Thad’s practice of qigong and Bagua Zhang helped him shift from doing to being. He opens up about surrender, rebuilding trust, and why healing requires facing your inner dragons—not just quitting alcohol.   If you’re stuck in the loop of overachieving, overthinking, or overdrinking—this one’s for you.   — Visit Thad’s world: www.martialwellness.net Follow him on Instagram: @martialwellness     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #martialartshealing #qigong #BaguaZhang #12steps #wuwei #alcoholrecovery #spiritualsobriety #IFS #selfledliving #

You wake up with a pounding head, your stomach in revolt, your Sunday in ruins—and you call it normal. But what if your hangover isn’t a side effect… but the entire point?   In today’s episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I pull back the curtain on the madness we’ve normalised: choosing to poison ourselves for a memory we barely remember, then laughing about it like it’s some kind of badge of honour. From Stereophonics gigs to vomit-streaked bedsheets, I share a personal story of what it means to wake up to the Liquid Lie—and what freedom really looks like.   If you’ve ever planned your weekend around being sick, this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #HangoverTruth #AlcoholAwareness #SoberLiving #QuitDrinking #AlcoholFreeLife #HangoverCulture #SelfLedLiving #SobrietyJourney #LiquidLie #ReclaimYourWeekend #NoMoreHangovers #SovereignVow #MentalClarity #BreakTheCycle #PresenceOverPoison #RethinkAlcohol

It doesn’t happen all at once.   Your child doesn’t rebel. They vanish.   Little by little—at school, at practice, behind the bathroom door—they stop being who they are and start becoming who the world wants them to be. And most of us never notice… until it’s too late.   In honour of World Youth Skills Day, this episode goes deeper than coding or AI. It explores the quiet death of self-worth that leads our children to wear masks, people-please, and eventually drink to fit in.   We unpack The Echo—that flicker of truth that follows every performance—and how, as parents, we can either help our kids hear it… or teach them to ignore it.   And it all starts with us.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #AlcoholAwareness #TheEcho #ParentingWithoutAlcohol #GenerationalHealing #ConsciousParenting #CycleBreakers #SobrietyJourney #SelfLedLiving #AlcoholFreeParenting #WorldYouthSkillsDay #LiveUnblended #AlcoholRecovery #InnerChildHealing #AlcoholReliance

You can’t have what you want—but you can experience what you have. This Preston Smiles quote stopped me in my tracks during one of my hardest seasons. I was stuck in fear, chasing the illusion of a “better future”… only to realise that everything I wanted was already around me—love, connection, enoughness.   In today’s episode, I invite you to stop searching for a feeling tomorrow and start noticing what’s already real—today. Because the truth is, if you’re too focused on your future, you’re missing the people who love you now.   Let’s stop trying to fix emotional pain with material goals—and instead, learn to feel the love that’s already here.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #AlcoholFreeLife #LiveInTheNow #PresenceOverPerfection #SelfLedLiving #QuitDrinking #SoberCurious #EmotionalSobriety #HealingNotHustling #SpiritualSobriety #FutureTripping #TheLiquidLie

What happens when a man loses his throne?   Not in some fantasy kingdom—but in the real world. When the job goes. The marriage ends. The body breaks down. The identity crumbles.   Today’s episode is dedicated to Stan’s father—a man who lost his eyesight, his sense of worth, and ultimately, his life. But it’s not just his story. It’s the story of thousands of men silently collapsing behind the bottle.   We explore how legacy burdens shape masculine worth, why alcohol so often steps in when purpose disappears, and what it means to reclaim your kingdom by living from SELF—not status.   This one’s for every man who’s ever wondered, “Who am I if I can’t provide?”   And for every woman who’s ever loved him.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #STRIVEMethod, #AFAF, #SelfLedLiving, #MenAndSobriety, #MasculinityCrisis, #AlcoholRecovery, #IFS, #LegacyBurden, #FatherWound, #MasculineHealing, #ReclaimYourWorth, #AlcoholFreeAsFuck

It’s World Population Day—a time to worry about overcrowded hospitals, ageing societies, and resource collapse. But don’t stress… alcohol’s already solving the problem.   One drink, one fall, one suicide at a time.   In this short but savage episode, I unpack how alcohol isn’t just harming the drinker—it’s quietly shaving down our global numbers, one hospital admission at a time. From overloaded A&Es to violent assaults and sexual abuse, the data doesn’t lie: the liquid lie is a slow-motion culling, hidden in plain sight.   If you care about your kids, your future, or the people still waiting in hospital corridors—listen to this.   And then take the vow.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #WorldPopulationDay #AlcoholAwareness #PublicHealth #SoberLiving #QuitDrinking #AlcoholFreeAsFuck #HospitalOverload #NHS #SovereignVow #SelfLedLiving #TheLiquidLie

#1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE   Did alcohol ever turn you into someone you didn’t recognise? For me, it wasn’t just the booze—it was the way I reacted to everything. Bees. Noise. People. I was a pressure cooker with no release valve.   On International Don’t Step on a Bee Day, I’m sharing the story of how giving up alcohol helped me reclaim my attention, my nervous system, and my humanity. This episode isn’t just about bees—it’s about presence.   ✅ What you’ll learn in this episode: – Why alcohol shrinks your window of tolerance – How presence (not perfection) is the first sign of healing – How being AFAF helps you stop reacting and start responding   This one’s about clarity. Breath. And noticing the sting before you squash it.   If you’ve been running on autopilot… it’s time to look around.