Nourishing The Mother

The daily grind of family life can have a us feeling like we don’t recognise who we are, and feeling anything but calm. Yet at the same time, berating ourselves for not being the calm, perfect mother. Even the best family calendar in the world will not save you from family chaos. So let us help you get comfy in chaos, so you’re more available to find the calm. In this episode we discuss:- Making chaos safe in your nervous system - Over-infatuation with calm- Building your tolerance for chaos - Pairing the chaos with something meaningful- If you don’t have awareness of who you really are, you’re more attached to who you’re supposed to be - Authenticity includes chaos- Rising above your daily kryptonite triggers - Finding the right buffers for you, so you can feel more connected to you- Doing something that creates resistance or creativity - Remembering it’s not all on you - Action planning your day to keep you on track - Knowing your priorities when chaos arrives - Bringing gentleness and compassion to yoursel

Join us for an insightful conversation filled with tips and encouragement to help you thrive in your friend and romantic relationships. Balancing friendships and family as a busy mum can be tricky, but it’s crucial you maintain both relationships as part of your overall well-being and happiness. We dive into how different stages of motherhood require unique approaches to making friendships work, and learn how integrating family needs into your social life can create a supportive and fulfilling community. We’ll tackle the common feelings of guilt and societal pressure that come with spending time away from family, providing practical strategies to navigate and overcome these challenges. In this episode, we discuss:⁃guarding against romantic relationships needing to be everything⁃Friendships making you a better mother and lover⁃Creating an integrated community with your family⁃When you WANT to ‘go out’ but you can’t - bringing your flexibility and adaptability to make it work⁃Hosting so you don’t have to get ba

In this episode, we dive into the heart of authentic connections. We explore the journey of finding those magical women who become our trusted confidantes and lifelong friends. How do you cultivate deep, honest relationships in a world full of surface-level interactions? Join us as we share insights, stories, and practical tips on building genuine bonds with like-minded women. Whether you're seeking new friendships or looking to deepen existing ones, this conversation will inspire you to embrace the beauty of true companionship. In this episode we discuss:- Be available, put yourself out there and trust your attraction force - Do you know what you’re looking for?- Conscious questions on why you don’t have it yet - Going first and showing up for the relationship - The law of the one and the many - Where are you available and where are you unavailable for the connection you seek - We’re all working through childhood stuff on our ‘safety to be seen’ - Craving connection and sabotaging depth - The ego death

When you know you’re stuck in a negative loop about your child, how do you prevent it becoming part of their identity? Let’s give ourselves permission to feel the feelings and stretch our thinking beyond the polarisation. In this episode we discuss:- Finding the drawbacks of how you think they ‘should’ be- Moving beyond seeing this trait as the most dominant part of their personality- Supporting your kids to work on those tricky traits in a healthy way - Getting out of negative thought loops by thinking wider- The reflection of what we’re disowning within ourselves- The impact we have as parents to shape our child’s self-perception - Recognising the story you’re telling yourself - Looking for where our children are the opposite of how we’re seeing them - Creating an ecosystem that supports diversityTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, vis

When you feel like you’re passing ships, or living parallel lives, it can be incredibly difficult to surrender and relax into life and relationship when you come back together. So let’s prepare for re-integration! In this episode we give you the ‘Getting to shore kit’ where we cover:- Taking steps towards your goals, not just digging backwards- Self-sabotage moves in intimacy- Bringing your expert mothering pivot-skills into your relationship- Playing the who-has-it-harder game- Making yourself replaceable - Creating a structure to support you letting go - Making relationship more of a priority - Connecting to yourself to be available for connecting with them - Allowing your walls to drop- Supporting yourself to have a thriving relationshipTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

How do you lean into trusting your child and trusting yourself when the weight of advice, information, research and authorities are bearing down on you? What if you could create a lean-back effect that makes parenting and holding yourself easier, by overlaying a really beautiful and basic blueprint of what your children are trying to work out, integrate and establish? This is what we offer you in this week’s podcast. In this episode we discuss:- Leaning into trusting your child rather than the intellectual- Affirming safety for healthy development - Parenting the fears of ourselves - Creating physical safety vs nervous system safety - Our children borrow a sense of safety from our own narratives- Am I okay? Is the world okay? Am I lovable?- When children test the limits of behaviour and safety in a relationship - What each stage of parenting requires of you as a mother - The developmental overlay framework by Duey FreemanTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit

Family freeloading on your unpaid labour is REAL. So what is service, and what is enabling/over-functioning? It requires you to hold high expectations and a level of self-worth on your minimum standards for how others treat you, and how you treat yourself. In this episode we discuss:- It’s overfunctioning when you’re running from a threat- It’s service when you’re connected to your heart- It’s enabling when you limit their potential for growth - The paradox of holding ‘not being liked’ and maintaining love and respect in a relationship - Watching your co-dependent merge tendencies, rather than checking in on your greater alignment - Subconscious tendencies to stack more load on ‘easier’ kids - Sibling conflict as a way to balance family systems - Self-worth as a barometer for what you tolerate in your home - A willingness to be disliked by your child as you call them to accountabilityTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore c

Firstly, ouch. That’s a hard place to be. How do you get out of the burnout and resentment cycles and into a parenting relationship that feels more equitable? First, you’ve got to look at why you’re overfunctioning, what your emotional set point is, and how you can step out of the way. So let’s get on the co-parenting train!In this episode we discuss:- Our motherhood can be shaped by how supported or unsupported we feel- Feeling trapped and alone- Trauma responses of self-sufficiency and people-pleasing- Our own ‘puff-up’ and ‘beat-down’ cycles - How to hold your own personal standards- Releasing your trauma responses on your partner- Your partner’s parenting relationship is not yours to steer or control - Being okay in your lean-back - Trusting your kids to build their own relationshipsTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://w

When you put a ring on it, the work is not done. But we can tend to find ourselves working our current relationship off an old program and set of agreements. There’s only freedom if you’re choosing it, so let’s talk about how to get out of feeling trapped.In this episode we discuss:- Your own confirmation bias - Whatever you look for, you find- Limiting beliefs that cap what you want and ask for - The discontent of relationship pushing you into choosing yourself - Dedicating years to undervalued care work - Getting back the pieces you think are missing- How your body reflects your value system - Partnering with someone who has the opposite values to you- Renegotiating relationship terms - Less pressure and more ease when you stop expecting your partner to be everything- Resourcing yourself and your life for more- Finding freedom rather than convincing yourself to stayTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parentin

What is it with the “mid-life crisis”? And why do relationship break-downs often bear the brunt of it? When your shut-down becomes apathetic, and you’ve given up on bringing your needs into the relationship…and then the relationship ends, often, he’s blindsided. Typically, when you blow up a relationship, you’re seeking a release from an overburdened, over-stressed life. What would it be like, if you considered these things first, before you make a big decision…?To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

We all hope on a wing and a prayer that it will all turn out okay. That all our agonising over conscious parenting, pays off. In the euphoric aftermath of Julie’s son’s 18th, she shares the lead-up, the hot tips, and the unexpected jelly shots that brought family together. Check out Julie’s kids business, Inflatable Nights here: http://www.inflatablenights.au (http://www.inflatablenights.au)To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

When we’re trying so hard to mother in ways that we were not mothered, we can find we exhaust ourselves at the altar of ‘perfection’. What would it look like to stop parenting from a place of lack or fear, and start parenting from a place of love and wellbeing. Let’s find out…  In this episode we discuss:  - The need to overperform to feel okay - Parenting from a place of lack, fear and anxiety - Being socialised into intensive mothering, with an endless capacity - Venomous blame cycles, vs overflow of service where we feel balanced and fulfilled - Pushing and performing, vs feeling good in your motherhood - We adapt to the environment, privilege included - They will not appreciate what their ‘set point’ is - We can’t save our children from having voids - Make sure you take your wellbeing with you  - Have areas of your life that are nurtured outside of your children  - Taking separation personally, and clawing your relationship back  - Looking at your child’s movement towards you and away from you as normal,

In deciding the type of mother that we want to be, often that’s informed by our experience with our own mother. The view we have of our mother will shape the view we have of ourselves, and therefore, the fuel we draw on in our own mothering, can be created by what was missing or not met by our own mother.   In this episode we discuss:  - Constantly ‘conscious’ and centering your child is outside the realms of what’s possible for any single human  - The deep shame we feel when we perceive we perpetuate what was done to us  - In moments of stress we regress; it’s why triggers are visceral  - Meeting a collection of moments of deep attunement rather than ‘perfect mothering’ - Holding the polarity paradox and complexities of motherhood and humanity  - Feeling controlled by a tiny dictator  - Letting go of unrealistic expectations we beat ourselves against  - Liberating yourself from judgement  - Your freedom is NOT being the complete opposite of her  - Sometimes your dreams are at odds with your mothering  - Real

It’s held up as the pinnacle of perfect mothering in our culture, but is it really? Often, what you’re over functioning on, is related to what is intolerable for you to be.   The more practiced we can be at examining our subconscious motives ahead of time, the less shock we feel when we get angry.   So let’s go on a self-examining journey into the shadow side of the selfless mother.   In this episode, we discuss:  - Nothing is ever completely selfless or altruistic  - Where there’s selfless, there’s selfish  - Where you’re giving you are gaining  - Often shame is attached to focusing on the self, and receiving  - Whatever is unacceptable behaviour for ourselves, we make sure our child doesn’t behave like  - Overfunctioning and hyper-dedication is often a control strategy  - To change the ‘mother-as-selfless’ narrative would undermine our social and patriarchal structures and systems  - Deriving our self-worth from being in service to others  - Examining where over-functioning is a strategy to mask or avoid so

We all want our children to be pleasant, kind, repair well…and so it’s shocking when we see them as inconsiderate, rude, harsh, or on the receiving end of any of these things. As a parent, when do you step in, and when don’t you?In this episode we discuss:- When you feel like you need to get involved with your child’s social dynamics- When your kid’s social situations are normal, vs a problem- Remembering as parents we’re blinded by our lens on our children- Building resilience and fostering a courageous sense of self - Observing what our kids are learning from their “teacher”; the child they’re currently orbiting with - Trusting their ebbs and flows of knowing who they are, and recognising that this will shape who they attract- Allowing learning through social observation - How we see our child becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy - Meeting your kids where they’re at, and having conversations around marginalisation, neurodiversity, trauma and struggle - The home environment is still the best teacher for relati

The longer you “go without”, the harder it is to get it back. To bring back your intimate vibrancy, and chuck out the ‘roommate vibes’, you need to know what’s blocking you, and why, and what you’re going to do about it.So let’s move beyond obligation, complacency, resentment and neglect, and let’s centre the wellbeing of the self, the relationship and the family unit, to bring back sexual connection.To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

How do you as a mother embrace the change as your child grows up, but navigate the grief you feel, with grace?This podcast gives you three clear tools and processes to avoid getting stuck when you cling on to particular ages and stages of your child’s development.In this episode we discuss:Shifting your focus on keeping them closeA loss of control can feel like a loss of safetyThe acute awareness of separateLooking back and our tendency to either catastrophise or wear rose-coloured glassesOur children are not committed to us, they’re committed to their own highest valuesWhere there’s loss, there’s gainIf you’re stuck in a story, you need to balance it by the oppositeWe can find ourselves focussing so much on how to ‘become’ the mother and embracing matrescence, that we forget there can be equal pain, suffering and growth in unbecoming that centralised figureThe invitation this can be to find more of youTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenne

The struggles are different, but are they harder? In the generations gone by, where women were relegated to ‘home duties’, there was a confinement, but also a simplicity. Today, there’s privilege, and also struggle as a result of that privilege.In this conversation we open up some key points for you to consider as you wrestle with this question.In this episode we discuss:Was the intense overwhelm always the case? Or are we becoming ‘too soft’?There’s a burden of responsibility when we know more about child and human developmentNowadays kids tend to have bigger behaviours because of unprecedented sensory overload on the nervous systemThe cultural blaming of mothersPatriarchial mothering systems creating mental & physical load-hoardingWorldview comparison creating struggle to be in the life you’ve createdNuclear functioning of the family unitRecognising the privilege in thriving vs survivingTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To

As we grow in our adulthood and authenticity, inevitably, what also grows is not being liked.Our level of comfort or discomfort involved in not being liked, will determine the level of fulfilment and freedom, or disconnection and futility we feel.So let’s talk about:Your magnetism and what’s working for youChoosing yourself over others versus focusing on being the peacekeeperBalancing your self-infatuation with your light sideLearning how to like the pieces of you that you’ve cast in shadowTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

Do you ever think “If I can just get this done…I’ll feel worthy” only you never quite feel enough? What would it be like to separate your list, from your worth? Let’s go there in this conversation.In this episode we discuss:When we look outside for our value, we devalue our workYou can make not getting to your list mean something negative, or you can make it mean an investment in your valuesMotherhood invariably holds the paradox of one foot in ‘fun’ and one foot in ‘responsibility’Where are you feeling weighed down and resentful and what are you choosing to believe about that?There’s some truth in ‘clear space, clear mind’And the inverse is equally true, where we’re using cleaning as a control strategyRigidity creates the punishmentBeing in conversation with your kids’ valuesThe lower your self-worth, the more the list will feel like your worthTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherh