Unraveling Pink

Why are we so afraid to speak up when someone makes a sexist remark? Or when we witness discrimination or inappropriate touching? The reasons are a bit different for men and women and some may surprise you. These reasons are explored in this episode, along with some suggestions of how to overcome the bystander effect and use your voice to move us forward to gender equality. Listen in. 
Resources in this Episode: 
Ally of the week: Kourosh Hemmat, "Halifax Taxi Driver Reportedly Kick Catcaller Out Of His Cab" 
Clementine Ford’s “Nothing maintains women's silence like the fear of 'making a scene'” 
Zoe Chance’s 10/2017 “Here’s Why We Don’t Speak Up Against Harassment”
 Michael Kimmel’s 1/2018 “Getting Men To Speak Up”
 David Smith's 2017 "Lots Of Men Are Gender Equality Allies In Private; Why Not In Public?"
 Lisa Hickey's 5/2018 “Men Know: Why Men Need to Start Talking About Violence and Sexual Harassment”
 Fugazi, “Suggestion”
 Amanda Hess, 2010 "Date Rape Anthem: Fugazi's 'Suggestion'"

This week's episode shines the spotlight on the representation of women on our big screens, little screens, conference daises, and bookshelves. It's worth taking some time to consider the messages we receive from all forms of entertainment and education and whether we are getting a balanced view of the world. If you come to the realization that your bookshelf needs more female authors on it, never fear, we have a list of some favorite female authors and books. Check them out! Tweet your favorites to @UnravelingPink and we'll add them to the list.
 Resources in this episode:
 Molly Flatt, The Guardian, "Is The Future Female? Fixing Sci-Fi's Women Problem." Check out: Molly Flatt's "A Darker Wave," Kassandra Khaw’s "There are Wolves in These Woods," Madeline Ashby’s "The Cure For Jetlag," Liz Williams’ "In the God Fields." 
Jodi Picoult, "Small Great Things"
 Debby Irving, "Waking Up White" 
Karen Catlin, "Present! A Techie's Guide to Public Speaking"
 Ed Yong, 4/19/2018, "When Will the Gender Gap in Science D

With the recent public discourse around "boys being boys" and the associated impact on women, I spent some time looking at how our world and communities are designed. What I found (which won't surprise most women) is that most aspects of the world we encounter are not designed with women in mind -- likely because they are often designed without the input of women. This episode dives a bit into how our communities, tech, and other aspects of our lives are designed, and sheds some light on how those designs impact women. It's clear that we could use some re-designing, and that includes some social redesigning to move away from the harmful societal expectation that "boys will be boys."
 Resources in this episode: 
Jennie Hill, 10/22/2017 “Walking, dressing and being on a planet designed for men” 
3/2/2004 Volvo: “Your Concept Car - by women for modern people”
 Kat Ely "The World is Designed for Men" (Medium article)
 Justin Davidson, 3/2018 "What Would A World Designed By Women Look Like?"
 Ankita Rao, 5/15/201

What could be more unique to each of us than our voices? Yet, many of us get criticized for how we sound. In the business world, it is often women whose voices are criticized, forcing women who want to be taken seriously to adjust their voices - those peculiarly unique to them - to be more masculine. This episode explores voices, criticism of voices, and some of the biology that impacts how we sound. Listen in...
 Resources from this episode: 
"Former Chelsea player says women’s voices are too ‘high pitched’ for commentating"
 "What Should Women Sound Like?" 
Audio clip of Vicki Sparks commentating World Cup game

This episode explores emotion and the workplace, in particular, the value of emotion for leaders. My conclusion: we should encourage more emotion at work, and accept it equally regardless of the identity of the person expressing it. Do you agree? Let me know at unravelingpink@gmail.com.
 Resources from this episode: 
Tina Young, 5 Feminine Traits Conscious Leaders Cultivate
 Daina Middleton, Grace Meets Grit 
Serena Williams video
 John McEnroe video
 David K. Williams, Forbes.com, 7/18/2013, "The Best Leaders Are Vulnerable"
 Kurt Bardella, USA Today, 9/9/2018, "Sexism Cost Serena William Tennis Title; Men Celebrated for Worse" 
David Gelles, NY Times, 8/19/2018, "Elon Musk Interview"
 Katie Heaney, The Cut, 6/7/2018 "The Single Easiest Way to Control Your Emotions at Work"
 Nell Scovel, Oprah.com, "For Any Woman Who's Been Told She's Too Emotional At Work"
 Amy Nelson, Forbes.com, 8/29/2018, "Elon Musk Cries About His Tears" 
Marina Koren, The Atlantic, 8/2018, "Elon Musk New York Times Interview" 
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Should you have women on your corporate board? Studies and a current bill winding its way through California’s legislative process say yes. This episode explores some of the complaints raised about putting women on a board and shares resources for where to find female board members (once you’re convinced it’s a good idea ... or required by law to do it) and where women interested in board service can get plugged in. Spoiler: all the good ones are NOT taken.

After a summer break for some podcasting introspection, Unraveling Pink is back, with new episodes being released this Fall to create conversations around gender equality at work. Listen in and share how your conversations go!

After almost a year and a half of Unraveling Pink, Annie reflects on the highlights and explores the format and content for the future. Have thoughts on format or guests? Share them on Twitter to @UnravelingPink, by email to UnravelingPink@gmail.com, or on our Contact page. Unraveling Pink will be on summer break until August or September. In the meantime, enjoy past episodes and challenges that will be posted on Twitter!

In this week's episode, Annie floats the hypothesis that perhaps more intimacy at work could be the antidote to our #MeToo culture. What do you think? Did your views change at all before and after listening to this episode? Share your thoughts at https://unravelingpink.com/contact/.

In this episode, Dan and Marion share stories about the single-gender conversations they are having about the #MeToo movement, how to be an ally to another gender when no one of that gender is in the room, how a more comprehensive look at gender equality requires looking at the assumptions we apply to men, and how we can start having more tough conversations. They model for us how to have these sometimes awkward conversations, highlight some of the challenges in this #MeToo culture, and ask us to get comfortable with a little awkwardness and initiate conversations that will help move us all to a more constructive place.

In this episode, we hear from former Navy Commanding Officer, David Smith, a sociologist who co-authored Athena Rising, a book by men to men about mentoring women. Dave dives into some of the challenges men face today mentoring women in the #MeToo environment, and highlights the benefits -- to men -- that show why men should double-down on interacting with their female colleagues - not pull away.

In this episode, Jennifer Brown -- CEO and Founder, Jennifer Brown Consulting, and Author of Inclusion: Diversity, The New Workplace & The Will To Change -- shares her perspective on finding our diversity stories (hint: everyone has one), asks some tough questions about how you show up at work, and shares insights into how you can inspire others at work.

In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, we hear from Jacqueline Steenhuis who shares how a woman took a chance on her.

Today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story shows the power and responsibility that comes when someone believes in you.

In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, a gift of reflecting back how you appear to the world.

Amazing things can happen when you have awesome women on your team. #WomenHelpingWomen

In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen, we hear a story of advocating publicly for someone else. Who have you advocated for today?

In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, Beth Pappy shares a story of an important work ally and issues a challenge we can all take on.

Allies can show up in many places, as we hear in Melanie Scroggins’ #WomenHelpingWomen story.

Sometimes just seeing the example someone else sets has a huge impact on you.