State Shifters

What’s up legends? In this episode, I sit down with Aaron Doughty for a deep, honest conversation about why so many of us lose ourselves in relationships and how people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and unexpressed emotion quietly drain attraction, polarity, and connection.We explore how childhood conditioning shapes adult identity, why tension isn’t something to avoid but a necessary catalyst for growth, and how the pursuit of approval keeps us disconnected from our authentic power.This episode weaves together inner child dynamics, masculine and feminine polarity, self-acceptance, neutrality, and the subtle ways urgency, ego, and validation run our relationships, business, and sense of self-worth. We unpack why worthiness is a concept rather than a feeling, how embracing discomfort restores respect and desire, and why becoming more yourself is the real path to intimacy, leadership, and freedom.If you’ve ever felt drained in relationships, stuck in people-pleasing patterns, or caught between self-development an